Plan N.

“Okay, so I’ll give the script change a stab & send it over for approval, but we’ll do a conference call on Tuesday for…oooph!”

::toddler takes flying leap into my lap::

“Sorry about that,” I continue.  “Anyway, I reached out to the ‘new Tim’ & he’s on board for Tuesday so we will…”

::toddler reaches finger under my chin & pushes button on phone::  “Daddy?  DADDY?!?  DADDY!”

“No, baby. It’s not Daddy.  What?  No, I’m sorry…I didn’t call you ‘baby.’  I meant my kid,” I explain.  This is humbling.

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I like control.  I like to-do lists.  I like when I know Plan A & the bullets under Plan A.  & just in case that doesn’t shake out, I have all the way to Plan M & those bullets ready, too.  Right now?  We’re at Plan N & I have no effing clue what we’re doing other than holding on to each other for the ride.

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Ready to jump.

I sit in a half-packed office, an odd mixture of frames in boxes but a vintage pennant banner still drapes across the walls.  I’ve handed off my clients & this week’s marketing report sits freshly pinned to my bulletin board.  I can’t seem to take down the last few pictures or pull the pens out of the little aqua vase.  It will feel too final.  I’ll do it Friday afternoon, I promise.

I’ve requested no big send-off, no awkward final lunch with the bossmen & folks I rarely interacted with.  Just a small gathering of my marketing team, the girls that have seen me through engagement & the first steps of marriage & motherhood.  Behind our conversations this week, a tense lump sits in all our throats.  Amanda asks if I am excited, if I’ve picked out my outfit for the first day.  Beth asks if I will finally lash into the one who wears the sweater vest & we laugh.

I wonder how I will hug them goodbye on Friday, despite knowing that it’s not really goodbye.  That for months, I will probably still call with big news & that Kathleen & I’s friendship was before this office & will last after.

I’ve been ready for this week for over a year.  But taking that jump always takes a big deep breath.

The details.

For six years, I poured my soul into my work.  Caring for families, being their advocate, toeing the fine line between client spokesman & employee.   I loved my company, respected the men I worked for, & very rarely had a “bad day.”  Over the years, it has been hard to watch my clients pass away, families mourn.  What began as a way to serve the community turned into hating myself for the phone calls I made, as I watched the business I work for change cultures.  I pushed back, only to be shoved harder.  In short?  I became a kicked puppy, as my friend Suzanne so eloquently put it over lunch one day.

It became glaringly clear that there was no upward mobility in the company, that there were no promotions or raises in sight in our non-profit & that benefits were being pulled away at a slow but noticeable pace.  I felt stuck & uninspired.

I struggled horribly re-entering the work force after Harrison & blamed it on my desire to stay home.  Through two years & lots of soul-searching conversations, it became abundantly clear that I did not hate being a working mother – I was frustrated with my job & the person I was becoming in it.  & working with the generation I did, where the majority did not understand or support working mothers, being faced with the question every single day of “Why don’t you want to stay home with your baby?” broke my heart.  Every single day.

It was time to make a move. For over a year, I have been sending out resume after resume, skirting around the direct issue while trying to network & make contacts.  My friends have been incredible, giving me contact names & helping me get my foot in the door at some amazing companies.  Also, it ain’t no joke about this economy.  If you’re looking for a job, be prepared for it to become a second job.  Interview after interview, some asking for me to perform projects & presentations on four-hour third interviews where I spent weekends drawing grafts & then took vacation time to present in a business suit.  I spent weeks waiting & agonizing for answers over jobs I felt sure were “the one.”  It was exhausting & I had many nights of wondering if my entire life was already set in stone.

After six years, it is time for me to move on & grow my career.  So I’m moving into an entirely different industry, re-starting my career in an entirely different position.  I am 100% out of sales now, which makes my heart so happy.  I’m moving onto a company that contracts research endeavors, working for the vice president.  Opportunities are wide-open, the benefits are amazing, & my new boss knows about my blog & love for social media.  He thinks it is awesome.  (also?  I get to wear jeans on Fridays! wheee!)

In short?  I am one hell of a happy lady.

p.s. more to come on the house.  there’s just so much wrapped up in this one life-changing move!

Let’s play a game.

Who wants to guess what this is?

photo1 Lets play a game.

First one to guess gets some kind of prize that will be totally cool.

Congratulations to R’s Momma, who guessed it was a new job offer(I’ll email you about your prize, I’m thinking Starbucks card or something tasty!)   More details to come soon, but right now I am on cloud nine & turning in my resignation.

Working momma style.

workingstyle1 Working momma style.

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