Get involved…in front of a camera!
Here’s the thing about pregnancy – it’s pretty much a vagina show. No, seriously. The vagina is totally important in getting pregnant & then it’s checked pretty regularly & then there’s that whole mess of pushing the baby through the canal.
Since the vagina is a headliner, it means the momma, who holds said vagina, is the essential part of pregnancy. In the first trimester it’s all about how-can-she-stop-puking & then let’s-decorate in the second trimester & then let’s-get-this-show-going in the third. It’s all about her comfort, her glow, her choices, & her celebration.
It’s not to say the dude is tossed to the side. He’s very much loved & congratulated. But last time I checked, an all-male baby shower is a rare occurrence & he doesn’t get/have to buy an entire new wardrobe.
I’m assuming this can make the daddy-to-be feel a little…left out. Sure, he’s proud as a peacock – my husband adores me & was thrilled at the idea of having a son, but there was also a fair share of HEY, LOOK HOW I IMPREGNANTED THAT FEMALE! Biology at its finest, friends.
I’ll admit I was the one who pushed for maternity pictures – I mostly wanted documentation of my time “in bloom” with Harrison before I became too swollen or cranky. I thought about how I wanted to be posed, what I would wear, but I also knew Doug would be a big part of these pictures.
After all, the kid was 50% his even if I was getting 90% of the attention. I took a page from my friend Jill’s maternity pictures by bringing in beers & fun for Doug.
I wanted him to be comfortable, to feel like himself. But I also wanted him to feel involved, like: Hey! Here’s something we can do together to celebrate what we’ve created.
We met with a friend one afternoon (they don’t have to be done by an expensive photographer!) & she shot pictures with his hands on my belly or the two of us cuddled up on a set of steps.
Three years later, I still adore these pictures. It was much sweeter & more fun than painting the nursery.