I peed on a stick one weekday morning & BAM! my world changed forever. Two pink lines & a swift kiss from my husband & I dressed for work. Somewhere around 10 am, sitting at my desk & thinking of the tiny life inside me, I realized that I knew nothing about babies. Nothing about pregnancy. I quickly searched the message boards I frequented for ideas on books & blogs & reading materials that might help me prepare for this little life.(Oh, so naive! To think I could “prepare” for motherhood & all its messy joy!)
What to Expect when You’re Expecting
Some folks hate this book because it can be all YOUR BABY HAS A ZILLIONTH OF A CHANCE OF BEING BORN WITH A DONKEY’S HEAD & it can be rather terrifying. It’s also kind of a “cover your ass” book full of all the do-nots, which are mostly taken care of through common sense & personal choice. But this book does do a wonderful job of breaking down pregnancy symptoms & explaining what is happening each week with the growth of the baby. I also loved reading each week’s “milestones” out loud at night so Doug & I could marvel together that our second-trimester baby was already sucking his thumb. Baby Bargains
This was the book I pored over before registering, as it gives a grade to products from all major brands after reviewing them for safety, recalls, & customer recommendations. Reading it made me obsessive with choosing top-of-the-line & the best-of everything. That was probably my biggest mistake in hindsight. I should have just carried around the infant seats & decided which one fit best rather than which got the highest rating in a book. I really didn’t need a Pack ‘n Play that had vibrations & music. I found that fluffy blankets were much better suited for me & my baby, rather than muslin swaddlers, despite their A grade.
The Happiest Baby on the Block
Dr. Karp, my baby laughs at your suggestions. And I nearly lost my voice & sanity trying to “shhhh” properly at 4am. Maybe this method works magic for some babies, but remember that Karp isn’t the be-all, end-all of baby whisperers, no matter what your Mom’s Morning Out group says.
The Vaccine Book
Some friends sniffed at me & muttered “hippie” under their breath when I picked this up, but I highly recommend reading this, even if you don’t choose an alternative vaccine schedule. It’s just good information to help you be the best patient advocate for your baby.
Baby-Proofing Your Marriage
GET THIS BOOK. It explains a mother’s emotions so much better than I could at the time (because I was being all hormonal & emotional). It discusses ways to end the score-keeping of parenthood, to share duties, to share expectations. There were so many times I read a paragraph out loud to Doug as a way to help him understand where I was coming from, & then he’d do the same for me. This book effectively bridged our communication as new parents when we were too exhausted to think straight.
So there are my recommendations for pregnancy & newborn books. Were there any you lived & swore by?