The big news.

by heirtoblair on January 23, 2012

It’s kind of like pulling a band-aid off.  You feel that twinge of nerves, you know it’s going to hurt, but you go ahead & yank anyway.

So.

I am unemployed.

YANK.

It was unexpected.

YANK.

(also?  ouch.)

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More to come after coffee & getting dressed & figuring out my first day as a temporary stay-at-home-momma.

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Amy January 23, 2012 at 8:54 am

I am so sorry….think of the positive…more time with harry!

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heirtoblair January 23, 2012 at 8:57 am

thanks :) & yes, I am very excited to have time with Harry. Homeboy is going to get his first library card today, I believe.

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Suz January 23, 2012 at 8:56 am

This is what I was afraid your news was after seeing your tweets & emails. I’m so sorry! Thinking of you. I’m here if you wanna talk.

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Samantha Vermeulen January 23, 2012 at 9:02 am

Oh no! I am so sorry to hear about the unexpected job loss. Prayers for peace over your anxieties & worries!

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MomNom January 23, 2012 at 9:05 am

You know how I feel. I’m keeping my ears open for anything and I’ve sent out a few emails. Praying for you guys! xoxo

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heirtoblair January 23, 2012 at 9:07 am

thank God for you & your friendship & emails last week. you are the best. xoxoxo.

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Shay January 23, 2012 at 9:05 am

Oh hun, I am so sorry =(. Positive vibes and happy thoughts coming you way!

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Courtenay G January 23, 2012 at 9:09 am

If it makes you feel any better, I got laid off 2 weeks before I delivered my 2nd baby in November. I believe you said you were working for a pharmaceutical company. I, too, was working for one. After 9 years in that industry, I am done (hopefully!) Too much instability these days. I am enjoying my temporary SAHM status, but will definitely be going back to work in a few months, God willing.
Enjoy your time “off” and good luck in your job hunt.

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Jessica January 23, 2012 at 9:17 am

Oh no. I was praying that it was good news. I am so sorry. I need a manager for a program in Raleigh. Email me if you’re interested. So very sorry.

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Kristen January 23, 2012 at 9:17 am

So sorry, BA. Fingers crossed that you figure something else out soon.

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Corinne January 23, 2012 at 9:18 am

Oh no. I’m so sorry! I hope you find something else quickly!

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Jennifer @ Also Known As the Wife January 23, 2012 at 9:21 am

This was not the news I wanted to see. I was hoping it was “we sold the house!!!!” news.

You are a talented woman you will find a place that is right for you.

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Courtney January 23, 2012 at 9:22 am

That really stinks. Especially since you have not been there very long.

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Jamee January 23, 2012 at 9:25 am

So sorry! There is something out there for you & it will be the perfect fit for your family! Praying that God can grant you some peace during this time of transition!

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Kena January 23, 2012 at 9:27 am

Sorry, BA. I hope you find something soon!

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Law Momma January 23, 2012 at 9:28 am

Do you have time for me to pitch you a book?

Ha! :)

Let me know if I can help in any way… and if you need a trip to Georgia.. um… you know… :)

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Jaime January 23, 2012 at 9:29 am

Oh no!! I did NOT expect to see that when I clicked through from Twitter. I’m so sorry. I wish I could help–and maybe I can if you relocate to NJ! ;)

Thinking of you guys & hoping something great comes along quickly.

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Mrs. MidAtlantic January 23, 2012 at 9:33 am

Oh no!! Good luck with the SAHM gig – I hope this is just another window being opened (quickly) for you and your family.

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Maija @ Maija's Mommy Moments January 23, 2012 at 9:34 am

WHAT??? Oh for the love of freaking needing a break in life. I am so sorry! I was really hoping this was good news. If I can help in any way… please never hesitate to ask.

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Surf Momma January 23, 2012 at 9:34 am

Oh no! I am so sorry! Thinking of you guys!

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Amy in NC January 23, 2012 at 9:34 am

Oh i am so sorry beth ann! I hope it was a more motivated by YOU think than by the employeer! I was just up in Raleigh this weekend and I thought Shoot i should give her a call to hook up, but it sounds like you had WAY more on your mind! Now maybe we should meet up for a play date sometime!

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Angie January 23, 2012 at 9:39 am

That was not what i was expecting to see. Thinking of you.

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Krista January 23, 2012 at 9:41 am

Oh no. I’m so sorry. Thoughts & prayers that something great is just around the corner for you.

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LIZ January 23, 2012 at 9:41 am

So sorry…

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The Many Thoughts of a Reader January 23, 2012 at 9:42 am

That blows. I’m sorry.

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Sarah January 23, 2012 at 9:43 am

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry, that really stinks! Hope that things work out quickly for you!

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Amy Beros January 23, 2012 at 9:44 am

I am so, so, sorry! Not sure what exactly you are looking for in a job but if you want to email privately, I am happy to keep my eyes and ears open since I also live in the Triangle. I also work with a lot of recruiters in the area so can connect you to them (they sponsor a lot of our fundraising events).

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Becky January 23, 2012 at 9:44 am

WHAT?! I’m an active reader of your blog, just don’t comment very often. That SUCKS. I understand the ups and downs. My husband has been employed/laid off 3 different times over the past 3 years. The economy is horrible, but we will all get through this. I know there is a plan in all of this!!

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Leigh Anne January 23, 2012 at 9:45 am

So sorry! But glad to hear you get more time with Harry.

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Kim January 23, 2012 at 9:48 am

What?!?! Oh my goodness, unexpected?! :( I’m really sorry. I hope something comes up super soon!

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Arnebya @whatnowandwhy January 23, 2012 at 9:50 am

I’m sorry. The unexpected layoff is definitely worse than knowing when it’ll end. But I am glad you “don’t seem to be” dwelling on the fuckedupness of it. Good luck; you’ll bounce back fine.

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Monica @ The Writer Chic January 23, 2012 at 9:54 am

Oh, BethAnne…I’m sorry, hon. Ouch, indeed. I have no doubt you’ll rally back better than ever, but for now, wallow, and know we’re all here pulling for you and loving on you near and far.

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Megan @ Beauty&theBanker January 23, 2012 at 9:59 am

I am so sorry to hear that. You are so strong I know you will bounce back in no time. Good luck in your search. And enjoy the extra time you have with Harry and to yourself.

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Candace January 23, 2012 at 10:02 am

Oh, no! So sorry. Being unemployed stinks. But being a temporary stay at home momma doesn’t. I know. I am in the same boat. Sometimes, no most of the time, the positives outweigh the negatives. Good luck in your job search!

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Melissa January 23, 2012 at 10:09 am

I’ve been through it and it sucks. I’m so sorry. At least you’ll get more time with the little man. You’re incredibly bright and talented. You will find something soon.

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Cassandra B January 23, 2012 at 10:10 am

i’m genuinely sorry to hear this… hope you find something soon :-)

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kk @ the mom diggity January 23, 2012 at 10:11 am

So sorry mama!!! I hope you figure things out quickly! But for now…enjoy that sweet little man of yours! :)

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Rachel January 23, 2012 at 10:11 am

Omg! Listen girlfriend, I feel your pain. Like for realz!! I was laid off right after I got pregnant. Then my dad, mom, and brother all got laid off within 6 months!! Talk about shitty. My mom ended up working at Publix and my grandparents paid the mortgage a few times. You know what though? We made it through. Times were tough and there were lots of tears. We appreciate simplicity now in a way we never did.

I have no idea where your path is about to take you but you will have a ton of support along the way. I don’t know the details of your stuff, but a lot of us will be able to relate… And I can see this as major blog mojo ;)

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Stephanie @DialMforMinky January 23, 2012 at 10:12 am

oh girl. I know that song. Here’s hoping it’s short lived and the new gig has less of a commute! In the meantime, I’m passing you some virtual coffee and bon bons.

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jeannett January 23, 2012 at 10:12 am

sucky suck suck suck.
can’t a girl get a break?!

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Colleen January 23, 2012 at 10:20 am

I am so sorry to hear this, not what I was expecting.

Just remember to stay strong and that there is a whole lot of people out there thinking about you and supporting you. We will all be there for you when you need to vent and when you need a pep talk. Something better will come along stay positive!

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ElleJay January 23, 2012 at 10:20 am

Oh no! I am so sorry :( But everything happens for a reason & the positive in this is you get extra time with your little guy.

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Sally @ Exploits of a Military Mama January 23, 2012 at 10:21 am

Oh no…I’m sorry, ba. Thinking about you, lovey!

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Pdx Jenn January 23, 2012 at 10:22 am

Oh Beth Anne. I transported back to August 13th immediatly when I read this! You’ll get through it. Let me know if you need someone to vent to… Hang in there!

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Renee January 23, 2012 at 10:25 am

That sucks! We have been down that road here a few times in the last couple of years. I feel for you. Enjoy your unexpected extra time with Harry & best of luck in finding a new job!

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Robbie January 23, 2012 at 10:28 am

Yep that qualifies as big news! Sorry! I was laid off in May and after the initial shock and anger it was actually a good thing…took some major adjustment on my part to go from WOHM to SAHM but I am managing. Hang in there! Perhaps we need to start an unemployed moms club?

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Courtney January 23, 2012 at 10:28 am

Oh no – That’s horrible! So sorry BA. You’re awesome-sauce, so their loss. You should totally start a business making those rock-on info graphic resumes. You’ve got great skills I’m sure and would make an awesome freelancer! Come on over to the self-employed side! And YAY for the extra time with the H-man!

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Jessica January 24, 2012 at 9:06 am

I would definitely pay you to make me a graphic resume. That was flippin’ awesome. You should really give that some thought!

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Becky January 23, 2012 at 10:30 am

Oh no, I’m so so sorry! I’m sure you know this, but we are all rooting for you!

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D January 23, 2012 at 10:31 am

Oh no, I am so sorry. That seems so unexpected and out of nowhere. Sending lots of good thoughts and prayers your way as you figure out your next steps.

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Meredith @ La Buena Vida January 23, 2012 at 10:33 am

Oh man. That just sucks, and I’m sorry.

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R. Emmylou Dooly January 23, 2012 at 10:36 am

OMG, OMG, OMG….
WHAT? Harry will be so excited to spend more time with you!

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LauraC January 23, 2012 at 10:39 am

DUDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDEEE. Sucks.
Everyone has said so many nice things, can I be the first to say it is totally bullshit when corporations lay people off right after hiring them? They know their numbers, so when this happens I get so insanely irate.

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Therese January 23, 2012 at 10:57 am

:(

I agree!!!

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becca @ just one more trip January 23, 2012 at 10:39 am

oh no! i’m so sorry about this! we experienced something similar a few years ago but with my husband’s job. we’d only been married a short time and had just bought a house. talk about stressful! we spent a lot of time praying and THE perfect job came along for him at just the right time; he’s still at it today! prayers for you guys!

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Anne R. January 23, 2012 at 10:42 am

Ugh, I am so sorry to hear this!! :( Hugs to you & enjoy some time at home with your boy before the next venture starts!

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Turner January 23, 2012 at 10:47 am

Oh my gah… I am so sorry! And those bathrooms were so nice! ;)

(Really, that sucks. Just trying to add a little humor)

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Jenny January 23, 2012 at 10:47 am

I’m sorry. You know sometimes things Do Happen for a Reason, even though they don’t feel so great when they are happening. I am sure everything will work out. Enjoy Harry :)

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Misty @ The Family Math January 23, 2012 at 10:47 am

I’m really sorry to hear this, BA. Good luck finding something soon that’s closer to home and in the field you want to work in. Hope you enjoy your time “off” with Harry!

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KCatGU January 23, 2012 at 10:48 am

Oh man, when this popped into the reader this morning, I thought, it would be good big news. So sorry to hear about this! I don’t know what else much to say but since I know your religious, all I can think of is the Garth Brooks song, “Some of God greatest gifts are unanswered prayers”

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nicole January 23, 2012 at 10:49 am

i would so like to say something that’s profound or some great advice… but i can’t think of anything than the facts.
1. man, that totally f*cking sucks b@llls.
2. you & your blog totally rock
3. you have like a gazillion people that read your blog wishing the very best for you & your family.

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Jill @BabyRabies January 23, 2012 at 10:50 am

Thinking of you! Hope your first day as a SAHM is delightful. You’re going to rock this new job so hard. Even if it is only for a little while :)

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Ames January 23, 2012 at 10:51 am

Prayers and keep LinkedIn profiles updated. That’s where most of the jobs that aren’t from a connection at the company saying “you should apply for this position” are coming from. Such a valuable tool for recruiters too. Once they find you on there they will love your personality.

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Christina January 23, 2012 at 10:53 am

Not sure what one could do from 600 miles away, but if there’s anything you need… even a toy swap as our kids are so freaking close in age, just to keep expenses down and excitement up.. I’d be happy to send books, puzzles, an awesome set of trucks that are gettin no lovin here. I’m not also (disclaimer) implying that your a charity case, but I know in times like this everything seems like too much. I’m so sorry girl.

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Therese January 23, 2012 at 10:54 am

Oh my gosh!!!! I’m so sorry!!!! I hope you find something super quick!!!

(I was hoping it was good news!)

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Sara January 23, 2012 at 10:58 am

That Sucks! I was laid off last January. My husband told me to take a few months off ( we were having a bad snow storm at the time.)and then start looking for a job. We found out March 1st we were 13 weeks pregnant with #2. We had fertility issues conceiving the first never in a million years thought #2 would come without trying. So my temporary turned into permanent until the kids are in school.

Good Luck I hope you find something soon!!

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jodi January 23, 2012 at 11:04 am

I hope this was a decision you were involved in, but I’m getting the feeling that isn’t the case. I’m sorry. Harry will cherish these days with you though!!

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Leslie January 23, 2012 at 11:06 am

What everyone else said, times a million. Sending thoughts and love to you and your family.

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Ashley January 23, 2012 at 11:09 am

Ouch BA. I’m sorry, how rough. Enjoy this time with little H. You’ll find something quickly :)

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Kimberleigh January 23, 2012 at 11:10 am

I just have to say that this kinda makes me mad for you. Yeah, you hated your old job, but dang, it was a stable job that you could depend on. And they pulled you from stability to a job where they lay you off after a little while, all the while promising promotions, etc? That’s just plain dirty. :P
I do believe that God has a plan though, so maybe this is just the experience you need on your resume to find your dream job :) We’re praying for you!

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Kimberleigh January 23, 2012 at 11:13 am

By the way, that creepy smiley face in the middle of my comment was supposed to be something else! That just looks plain creepy…

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t.bird January 23, 2012 at 11:19 am

gah- i’m sorry girl :(

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Nikki January 23, 2012 at 11:22 am

Esh, so sorry. May it be a blessing in disguise.

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Erica January 23, 2012 at 11:33 am

It’s probably a blessing in disguise! Praying something bigger and better comes your way ……..At least you will have a little more time with H :) Have fun at the library!

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Jenni January 23, 2012 at 11:43 am

Sorry to hear about your luck BA, Enjoy your “time off” with your little man. Im praying to the interweb gods a high paying freelance writting gig comes your way and you can be a WAHM. (if thats what you want of course)
I’ve followed you since before Harry was but a positive pregnancy test and you’ve been thru so much, and handled it all with grace, and your honestly has helped me get thru some rough times myself.

Life seems to keep you on your toes thats forsure!

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Erin January 23, 2012 at 12:02 pm

Girl…I’m stunned! I was NOT expecting to see this kind of news this morning. I am SO deeply sorry that you’re no longer employed, especially since you hadn’t been there that long – but at least you’ll have more time with Harry. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers, hoping that something FABULOUS will come your way soon.

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Holls January 23, 2012 at 12:05 pm

I am so sorry this happened and understand how you mus be feeling probably more than you know. Things will be OK, you will be OK and I bet something even better will come around even sooner than you think.

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Alena January 23, 2012 at 12:16 pm

I say we just throw rocks at 2012 and make it scream for mercy. I mean not even a month in and 2012 is not being so friendly.

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Courtney in Ne January 23, 2012 at 12:25 pm

I am so sorry and will be praying for you! You’re a strong woman and will make it through this. Remember it is only temporary.

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Kristen January 23, 2012 at 12:28 pm

Not a good way to start the week. Will be praying for you as you figure out what is next! Enjoy your time with Harry!

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Brianna January 23, 2012 at 12:28 pm

(((Hugs))) Hopefully, your unemployment is short lived. Enjoy your time with Harrison. It’s awesome that he’s getting his first library card today.

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TwicetheSparkle January 23, 2012 at 12:38 pm

WHAT?! I’m sorry, but WHAT THE EFF NEW EMPLOYER?! ::deep breaths:: I am so sorry. But mostly I am SO PISSED FOR YOU. And sorry. GAH.

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Crystal Brown January 23, 2012 at 12:44 pm

I am so so sorry BA. But enjoy the time with Harry!

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michele January 23, 2012 at 12:48 pm

NO! BA, that’s just… that’s the shits. I’m sorry. I have no wisdom for you here, but just wanted to commiserate and send you some love.

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molly January 23, 2012 at 1:01 pm

Big hugs to you. I’ve been there. Just sent you an email :)

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Hannah January 23, 2012 at 1:01 pm

I was in your shoes this time last year and it sucked (alot) but it was one of the better things that happened to me last year. I ended up (fairly) quickly at a job that suits me perfectly and got to spend three unexpected and fun months with my little girl almost full time. Sending good vibes your way!!

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Angie Roach January 23, 2012 at 1:12 pm

Shit

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Amanda January 23, 2012 at 1:17 pm

Oh, I’m so sorry! I never know what to say in these types of situations. I’m sure Harrison will give you all the hugs and cuddles you need.

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jess liv January 23, 2012 at 1:18 pm

can i just say i’m genuinely pissed. like, who does that shit?! i have all the confidence in the world that you’re going to find something great, but seriously if this is how that company runs itself, i guess it’s good you’re getting out now. how is doug doing with his new gig? maybe you can start writing a book … i know a loyal fan base who would love to read it (: i’m sorry for the shitty surprise, but i’m crossing my fingers that the next better thing will walk into your life soon!

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CourtneyCP January 23, 2012 at 1:30 pm

So sorry to hear this! I am also in the layoff club — take some time to mourn before you go back to kicking ass as we all know you will.

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olive January 23, 2012 at 2:04 pm

Holy shitballs. That’s about all I can say about that.
As a fellow unexpected stay-at-homer…… It’s a total roller coaster. Use your support system. Don’t get sucked into the evil alien planet of toddler mind f*s. :)

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TarheelsInNj January 23, 2012 at 2:06 pm

OMG!! I’m so sorry, that really sucks. Y’all have been through a lot lately… at least you can hopefully enjoy the silver lining of spending extra sweet time with your little man. Good luck to you!!

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Becky @ From Ministry to Motherhood January 23, 2012 at 2:17 pm

That sucks, you were so excited for that job. Prayers for peace and employment are being sent your way! Have as much fun as you can and enjoy these unexpected days with your little man.

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Erin January 23, 2012 at 2:26 pm

Oh no! I was expecting good news. But hopefully this is good news in disguise…? Crossing fingers for you, good luck BA!

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jenni from the blog January 23, 2012 at 2:35 pm

Grrrrrr. This makes me so angry for you!!! I’m sure you’ve been through all the stages- shock, disbelief, anger, etc (have you gotten to acceptance yet? Because I think that would take awhile for me.) I’m so so sorry that you are going through this. All I can say is I’ve been there. Hubs was laid off for over a year and it was SO HARD. But we made it through. Everything is going to be FINE. Just focus on the positives. And ya know what? You found a new job before and you will again. With your personality, you’ll be completely fine… any job would love to have a sweet and outgoing (and SMART!) person like you!

Head up, hun. Everything is going to be okay.

xoxo

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Jacklyn January 23, 2012 at 2:40 pm

This sucks camel dicks on the planet Bullshit. :( sorry to hear this. I went through a similar experience a couple years ago. Nothing feels more rotten. I made it through the other side though and I’m sure you will too. (still doesn’t make it suck less though!). Hugs for you!

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Sharone January 23, 2012 at 2:47 pm

Oh, no. Bad hardly seems adequate to describe this kind of news. I am so sorry.

I don’t know if this helps at all, but one of the things I realized in the aftermath of my own big bad news a few months ago (my husband asking me for a divorce) was that when we are faced with giant unexpected change, it can be devastating but it can also give us a chance to reevaluate, to reassess whether we want to keep doing things the way we did before–to figure out whether what we thought was best or right or whatever before is still best or right. I’ve been trying to remember that in the middle of the things that are hard.

I wish you all the peace in the world as you figure out your next steps. Sending lots of hugs and prayers.

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Ginger January 23, 2012 at 2:53 pm

Well crap. I’m so sorry!

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Becky January 23, 2012 at 2:53 pm

Holy hell, that sucks. I am so sorry!

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Lindsey January 23, 2012 at 2:54 pm

I’m so sorry! :(

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amanda January 23, 2012 at 3:05 pm

this pisses me off! you left a stable (although hated) job for this shiz. they better have a reallllllly good reason to terminate immediately. hope you get some sort of severance (no clue if that’s spelled right and i am too laxzy to google it)

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JJ January 23, 2012 at 3:07 pm

Excuse me!??! Did you not just start!!??? It seems I me the universe has other plans for you. … I see e-courses in your future… How to Get your Blog Off The Ground; Blog Writer’s Workshop: a four week course in making your inner musings meaningful to others….

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Megan January 23, 2012 at 3:55 pm

It was bc you were the creepy girl taking pics in the break room, wasn’t it?

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heirtoblair January 23, 2012 at 4:54 pm

hahahahahaha ;) I wish!

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Suzanne January 23, 2012 at 4:22 pm

BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. My first thought is I’d be happy to mail someone a flaming bag of poo, but that’s neither helpful nor very mature. Although I’ve never been good at being either of those things, so the offer still stands.

I hope you find something way awesomer soon and I’m looking forward to lots of Harry pics!

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Katie@SassySillySpunkyMomma January 23, 2012 at 4:46 pm

I am so sorry to hear this. I think I saw on Twitter that you were worried about insurance. My husband was laid off 2 times in a year and carried the insurance for our family. I have a few different ideas of things we learned and options out there. If you are interested e mail me:). So many people helped us when we went though this that I would love to repay it by helping somebody else out.

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