The magic of Christmas Eve & Santa.

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11:45pm on Christmas Eve, putting in the 417th screw & an empty whisky glass beside me.

As I said a wee bit ago, we do Santa in our home.

When I wrote that little manifesto, I held so much anticipation in my heart for the coming Christmas Eve.

That night, we sang by candlelight in church & ate spaghetti with family around the dining room table.  Later than normal, Doug & I tucked a very sleepy Harrison into bed with Christmas jammies & The Polar Express.  After changing into comfy clothes & pouring whisky & gingers, we sat down on the living room rug with Santa’s presents.  We began with the most challenging piece, Harrison’s play kitchen.  Over the next two hours, Doug & I laughed & talked about the past year.  How much Harrison has grown, how he will love his new toys, how this season has been so amazing with his ability to participate.  With Christmas carols playing in the background, I really got it.

Watching the presents come together, presents I bought for my little boy, carefully selecting what I thought he might like.  I realized that these twelve hours between bedtime & Christmas morning were a parent’s best part of the year.  The sacrifice & joy & complete infatuation with my child, all coming together on one day.  When we laid down a little past midnight, I felt more excitement as a parent than as a child on Christmas, simply imagining his reaction at the gifts by the tree.

& Harrison’s smile on Christmas Day did not disappoint.

p.s. there are 360 days until harry is three at christmas & i cannot freakin’ wait.

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Hey, folks.  I’m still not feeling 100% after the flu took me for a hayride this past week, but I am feeling more human & less zombie as of this afternoon!  The flu hit me hard when I woke up Monday morning – I spent the entire day in bed, tried to hit up work on Tuesday only to see my doctor at 1pm when he walked in & said, “OH DEAR GOD” when he looked at me.  Yeah, fun times.  (& yep! had my flu shot. as an asthmatic, I’m a staunch supporter of the yearly vaccine & just got unlucky this year.)  Hoping to be back in the swing of things next week after I get caught up on work & the house.  Turns out the world doesn’t stop turning when I’m a human cesspool of ick.

ANYWAY.

Christmas was lovely & quiet this year.  We made Christmas cookies on December 24th to leave out for the fat man & Harry may have snuck one two okay, three.

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In his defense, they were delicious.  That night, we dressed to impress for the Christmas Eve candlelight service, which is always my favorite part of Christmas.  Being in our home church where we married & now with a small boy on my hip, I raised my candle during the final chorus of “Silent Night.”  It is always the little things that get me right in my heart at the holidays.

(more on Christmas Eve & playing Santa later)

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I am so bummed that this shot is out of focus because this was Harrison all Christmas morning.  Pure joy.  I think for this particular shot, he had just lost his toddler marbles over the fact that Santa! Left! Dum-Dums! in his stocking.

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Here was Harry’s haul.  Tip:  TJ Maxx sells Melissa & Doug for $5.00 per puzzle.

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Dear Lord, the bed-head playing with toys.

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“Thanks for the presents, Daddy!”
(it’s doug without a hat!  like catching a zebra in the wild!)

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oh, Santa.  You’re too sweet to me.  (it was a bluebird charm)

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My favorite present with a big shiny bow on his cheek.  Once presents were opened, we sat down to a big breakfast of bacon & biscuits & grits.  Harrison took a long nap while Doug & I watched the latest Harry Potter.  It was a sweet, relaxing day.

How was your Christmas?  I have been so MIA since Christmas, so I would love to hear what you got or what the favorite moment was or if you posted about the holidays, leave a link so we can all catch up.  

Babble babble blah blah blah

I’m currently sick as a dog, hoping my flu test comes back negative this afternoon.  Until then, rest ye merry gentlemen on my Babble posts & I’ll be back with a Christmas recap…soon.  & by “soon” I mean that it could be tonight or a week from now.  I make no promises when my throat is on fire.

Some tips for dealing with time outs. (don’t worry, they’re not mine)

I told y’all to go get your hair did & order expensive lattes.

I showed you my house at Christmas, but I think 90% of y’all have already seen it.

Then I talked about the baller day Harrison & I had together on Friday.  Because having a day off is the greatest part of being a working mom.

& I gave tips on how to make Christmas morning not put your kiddo on overload.

I got sick, too.  Boo.

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The universe is effing with my eyeballs.

I need to preface this by saying that for the first time IN A YEAR, I am doing that female thing we do.

I think because I’m hyper-sensitive to hormones, even the smallest dose of birth control kept my monthly bitch-fest at bay.  But then a change in insurance happened & I finished my last pack before my new insurance started, so here I am, all synthetic-hormone free & FULL OF THE BITCH.  You know, just in time for Christmas.

Then the eye doctor effed me over.  (y’all know how I feel about the eye doctor & if you don’t?  I hate him.)

So that stupid distorted cornea thing that started this summer with the splitting headaches & grey vision is still around.  The doctor recommended glasses to fix the issue, so the moment my insurance kicked in, I ordered a new pair.  Just a plain ol’ set, nothing too hipster or too modern.  I dig the classic Vera Wang.  (by the way, what is up with only carrying designer frames?  I don’t & won’t own anything else Vera Wang.  I don’t get it.)

Then I waited for them to arrive with my grey eye & massive amounts of impatience.  When they called Wednesday, I was all, “SEE YOU!” at 4:30 & hauled ass to the other side of town.  I slid into a parking space at 5pm on the nose & banged on the door at 5:01pm.  The gal at the desk looked up….& then looked back down.

The. Ever. Living. Eff.

I whipped out my phone & dial the number, thinking if she picked up I could explain that I had already paid for my glasses & all I needed was for her to just hand them to me.  The phone rang & rang & rang while she sat there.

I get it.  They closed at 5pm.  BUT IT WAS ONE MINUTE.  I’ve been a patient for over twenty years there.  & plus also?  I wouldn’t be in this position if it weren’t for a bad set of contacts they sold me.

The rage was so strong.

Between that moment & 8pm when I crawled into bed with a heating pad, I threatened doom.  Then I calmed down & became a sane person again, so at 8am on Thursday, I told work I’d be a wee bit late & swung over to the optomotrist.  Only to find them closed until 9am even though THEY OPEN AT 8 AM.

IS THE UNIVERSE LAUGHING AT ME?!?!

Long story short, I nearly ran over five people getting there, but I did manage to pick up my new set of eyes last night.

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(see also:  90% of this was my fault do to lack of planning, BUT DON’T TELL MY UTERUS THAT.)

Changing Careers In The Worst Economy Since The Depression. Yeah, it’s that bad.

Six weeks ago, I packed up an office I sat in for six years & walked into a new building with marble floors.  I left a nonprofit environment for the wild, expensive world of pharmaceuticals.  I left a small family-owned business for a global company.  I left high-pressure sales to sit at a desk & offer support.

In short, I changed everything about my career.

Without going into the messy, gossipy, bridge-burning details that probably don’t interest anyone, I realized in mid-2010 that it was time for me to leave my job.  Unfortunately, we needed my income & benefits so I stayed with a job that drained my soul & every night, I sent a minimum dozen of resumes.  I went on a slew of interviews, wrote more cover letters than I care to admit, & sobbed misery every night. 

It took over a year of applying & interviewing.  Thousands of resumes.  Four-hour interviews with projects for companies, only to find out that I was “second choice.”  Rejection letters pouring in.  I was terrified that at 28 years old, I hit my career peak.  Then one afternoon over lunch with a friend, she mentioned an opening in her company & like any job lead that came before, I jumped on it quickly.  Two weeks later, my phone rang with an offer & I burst into tears of gratitude.

Yep, I cried on the phone with the recruiter.

I tell you that so a) you won’t take this as job-hunting law because obviously, I have a lot to work on in regards to professionalism.  & b) to warn you that job hunting can be the most emotionally draining time of life.  It’s kind of like dating, but for money.  errm…but not prostitution, I promise.

I’m not a guru or an expert, but I have been in that wretched place of career self-hatred & despair.  & I lived to tell the tale with a bright, shiny new professional future.  & not to get all motivational-speaker on you, but if I can do it?  You can do it.

1)  Perk up your resume.Graphic Resume 791x1024 Changing Careers In The Worst Economy Since The Depression.  Yeah, its that bad.
After seeing something similar on Pinterest, I created a graphic resume to help show how my traditional sales experience with “old folks” coincided with knowledge of that crazy newfangled social media.  Employers went nuts over this because it showed that I could think outside the box & I was creative.

 (p.s. click on the picture to the right & you can see the huge version)

2)  Be fast like a cheetah.
Keep your eye on job listing sites & when you see one you like, pounce!  In the beginning of my job hunt, I’d “save” something for later only to find it pulled three days later.  & I also found a pattern that company’s call the first folks that submit (not always, but most often).  If I got my resume in the day the job posted, I had a higher chance of being called back – I think it’s because I got my name in before they became overwhelmed with an influx of resumes. 

3) Look for a common thread in every job not offered.
They all pointed to me not having a desired set of skills.  This made sense – after five years in sales, I decided to pursue marketing & public relations outside of sales.  Which lead to…

4)  Go back to school. 
I signed up for a class at the local community college to get my certificate in project managment.  I just needed SOMETHING to “push me over the edge” of the competition.  I registered for it months in advance, slapped it up on my resume with a projected graduation date, & employers loved seeing that I was motivated to learn more.  I ended up dropping the class before it even started when I got my job offfer because it was too much to learn a new job & take classes.  (I plan on taking it this spring with my company’s tuition reimbursement plan.)

5) Network.  But be sneaky about it.
Like 90% of the people that have jobs, I had a personal employee referral for my new company.  It was so hard not to announce to the world I AM LOOKING FOR A NEW JOB! when I felt like my blog friends were the best networking possible. Instead, I dropped hints in emails to readers & told my close friends.  I spoke about it in person at local blogging events & even BlogHer.  But I kept it off Facebook, Twitter, the blog, & LinkedIn because I didn’t want my current employer to find out.  It’s a tough balance.

sequinsblazer 300x300 Changing Careers In The Worst Economy Since The Depression.  Yeah, its that bad.6)  Be a little bonkers.
When I interviewed for the job I am at now, I was reaching the end of sanity.  So I decided to push the limits a little – for my first interview, I wore a sequined top under a traditional blazer & pencil skirt.  The girls are still talking about it to this day – which means I was memorable.  For the follow-up interview, my boss was unable to make the meeting & I suggested a Skype interview.  Within an hour, I was computer-to-computer with the big guy.  Guess what?  They’re still talking about that, too.  I do not intend to sound snobbish or pat myself on the back so much, but find a way to stick out that is still true to yourself.

7)  Lower any inflated sense of entitlement or pride.
This one is the hardest & the realityI did not want to face.  Step back in order to move forward.  I was in sales & marketing for six years, quite successfully selling quarter-million dollar contracts.  I run my own “business” where I create advertising partnerships with big companies.  When I started looking, I went after marketing jobs because I wanted to move away from sales.  But they were all looking for someone with more “practical experience” & saw my sales as a soft skill.  So I scaled back – the job I have now is the Executive Assistant to the Vice President.  When I was hired, we discussed that this was a stepping stone & he already has me working on some projects outside of my job.  So I’ll learn the company as the assistant, know the execs, get my hands dirty with some projects, & hopefully be a project manager in just a few years.  It is worth it.

The biggest lesson I learned was that the wrong job can suck the joy straight from life.  & I deserved better.  So if you’re feeling heart-dry & wasted in your career, put yourself out there.  Don’t be afraid to be rejected & to learn & to be patient.  It will be worth it – I promise.

love,
The Girl With The Most Baller Job & Coolest Boss Ever

p.s.  yep, my new boss & company sure do know about my blog.

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