::long drawn out, dramatic, exasperated sigh::
I really tried to find a picture for this week. Something about bloat, because I’m in the female way that’s definitely not knocked up, but the only “bloat” pictures I find are anorexic teenagers trying to be artistic with their Sony point & shoots. It was disturbing. & then I Googled “blow fish” & it’s pretty much just creepy sea life. So picture some kind of picture on here that displays bloat but isn’t all emo or Nemo.
So like I said, my uterus is doing that female thing. Which normally doesn’t give me too much grief, but I must have offended it somehow this month, because it came three days early with a vengeance that includes an inability to button my pants. Unfortunately, I realized what was happening far too late after a week of really slacking on water, so even my fingers are puffy. You know, to match my eyes, which are still suffering ill-effects of allergies & making me look like a pothead.
Yes. I am so attractive today. Sausage digits & a Benedryl habit. Talking about my monthly courses. Don’t hate.
So, here’s the issue – I’m finding myself unmotivated. & not like in an, “oh, I don’t want to run today!” unmotivated, but in an “oh, I lost the baby weight & can fit into my pants” unmotivated. Like, everything that REALLY got me going earlier this year has been solved. I fit in my clothes. I like being in pictures with my kid. I feel moderately sexy in the bedroom. & now I’m just shrugging my shoulders & wondering where that inspiration left. I’d like to lose another 10-20 lbs. Sure. Along with every other woman in existance. But do I really want to mess with working for it? That’s where I struggle. Before, it was LOSE THE BABY WEIGHT. I can’t be that girl that never loses the baby weight & at her high school reunion, people are whispering, “Babies ruined her ass, for real.” Now I’ve lost the baby weight & I’m like….
No, really. There’s no words. Just “dot dot dot.”
Where do you find yourself? Have you ever been in this place where you need a big major motivator? What did you do?
Also, I spoke with a friend of mine that has had massive success on (& now off) Nutrisystem & we formed a game plan for me. I think my body has simply gotten used to the Nutrisystem program & it’s just not working for me right now. The same thing happened to her & she found that shocking her body with “real” food helped her drop a few more pounds. So I’m going to take some time off it, watch my food, plow in the veggies & water, & see what happens. I’m still a big fan of the program & obviously, it works, but I’ve been on it for 9 months now & I think it’s time to shake things up again to see more results.
You know, if I can find some motivation for results. That doesn’t include taping pictures of Victoria’s Secret models to my monitor with the words “NOTHING TASTES AS GOOD AS SKINNY FEELS.”
You know you’ve done that before. Don’t lie to me.
& I’m still at 205 lbs.
ok, seriously – get out of my head. or whatever, might be a less creepy expression…
but anyhow, i completely get your “lack of motivation” because you feel like you’ve achieved your initial goals… i’m there. totally. and i’m trying not to let myself get a lax about things… i’m trying to figure out a new big goal too… but it is so hard when the pants fit, the pictures are cute, and hubs likes to eat bbq and potatoes – all the time!
add to that, i feel a little stressed these days withe the mommy gig… we’re dealing with a new round of teething, separation anxiety, and he’s decided he doesn’t like sleeping (ever).
sigh.
i dunno. i don’t have answers this week….
::links pinkies::
I’m so there with you. On all of it.
Let me know when you find the answer, okay?
I’m right there with ya on the period thing…except, mine was REALLY light…liek 1 tampon total. So, even though my girl is only 17 weeks old and I’m RELIGIOUS with taking my birth control, I took a test just in case. Fortunately (because we don’t want another until she’s about 3), it was negative. WOO…breathing sigh of relief!
About the motivation…do you have a picture of yourself at your goal weight? That’s what I’ve looked at lately. I’m about 6 pounds away from my pre pregnancy weight but when I look at pictures from before I got pregnant, my face just looks so much thinner and I look much more attractive. Maybe give that a try?
But, have you lost the Harpie weight? I thought you had different “categories” and Harpie weight was lower than 205.
Also, exercise has different reasons than just losing weight. Heart health, mental health, etc. I would focus on those? Now that it is getting cooler out – walk around at lunch with a coworker, walk at night, do the 30 Day Shred.
I imagine it is frustrating to know that you got down to what, 188? 189? without much work, and that’s probably stopping some of your motivation.
Jennifer, I think you hit the nail on the head. When I was really sick, it was zero effort to get down so low. I think I got so spoiled & so used to losing weight effortlessly.
Which is no good.
& yep, I still have that to lose. That’s a good point. It’s just hard to get motivated to lose it when I’m fitting into clothes & liking what I see in the mirror. I keep trying to remind myself that losing even 10% of my body weight will lower my risk for diseases. I’m really trying to focus on motivating myself by health & not the number on the scale.
I’m not trying to be a dick. no really. I’m NOT. But I want to motivate YOU because you motivated me, and unfortunately that might involve some tough love.
205 is not a healthy weight. Not for your height. not for your age.
Sure, your clothes fit, your medications are making you content or complacent with your life,and things are finally resembling some semblance of the NORMAL you needed 10 months ago.
But that doesn’t make it okay.
My husband is 6’4. He weighs 18 pounds more than you do. 205 might LOOK good on you, but it’s just not a healthy weight, and it’s the high end of overweight, slowly creeping towards OBESE.
You’re only 27 or is it 26 years old. With every year as we creep into our 30′s we usually hold on to an extra 2-3 pounds.
that means that by the time you’re thinking of having #2, you could easily be 210-215.
And then what? You have #2 and settle for the scale saying 220, because well, 210 is too hard to reach?
It’s a slippery slope from here to full blown “way too much weight”
I think that when you hit a comfort zone, where you could gain OR lose 10 pounds and still be in a realistic target weight zone, then stop with the weight loss and learn how to maintain, for life. ( which is why nutrisystem is BS, because no one eats that shit for life, no one “relearns” how to eat on it. You are handed preservative filled shit, told what to eat and when , and see results for a few months. Not a realistic life plan going on there. WEIGHT WATCHERS BLAIR, WEIGHT WATCHERS)
So, with that, I officially assign myself title of ” dickhead of the day” and expect 50-11 ” what the fuck, who are YOU to tell Blair she needs to lose weight, asshole” replies to my comment. But again, I’m not going to stroke your ego or sugar coat my posts.
I’m just going to tell you the truth, and the truth is, 205 is not a healthy weight, especially not going into the holidays.
Signed,
Fellow McFatty that wants her Tony Robbins back.
when i start to feel unmotivated, i focus on the health aspect of working out. maybe try that instead of thinking about the weight loss part?
oh, and i drink 64+ oz of water per day. if i miss a refill of my water bottle, i don’t think it’s too late, i just go refill it, even if it’s 7pm.
I’ve totally taped pictures, etc to the fridge. And I might have to start doing it again. So you can totally count me in with those who need the motivation.
I’ve been doing Weight Watchers to lose the baby weight and it really does work. However, although I am seeing a difference in the way my body looks and my clothes fit, I’m not seeing a difference on the scale.
You are right, my motivation needs to come from how I look and feel, not the number on the scale.
@ajakz
Yes that was a dick comment lol!!! Nobody needs to focus on numbers anyhow… Body fat percentage is what we’re talking about here. Only you know your fatty spots. The taller you get, the wider range there is for “healthy.” Besides, I’ve never gotten the impression that she thinks her weight is ideal. She frustrated that she’s lost motivation.
BA- If you need a few weeks of maintaining, I say go for it. You have to learn how to be in the real world without re-gaining. This rest might give you motivation to keep going.
Ps- have you seen the latest VS commercial with the hald-naked models saying ‘I love my body’???!? Lol
I want to scream back: WE CAN SEE THAT YOU LOVE IT. You’re on TV in your panties!!
Must say that you have motivated me. I was going to do Nutrisystem but the food made me sick (stomach cramps, anyone?) so I started Weight Watchers last Wednesday and already have 7lbs off. Maybe try something like that. It’s really not hard and you can still eat things you like. Plus, they have tons of recipes and the iPod/iPhone app is AMAZING.
I have a lot of trouble drinking plain old water all of the time, but I recently found Skinny Water which is flavored water with no sugar, salt or calories. It honestly tastes really good and it helps me stay hydrated. Maybe that will help with the water thing? Good luck!
I think we all feel like this. Especially when our uterus’ are extra big and bloaty.
Yesterday I decided to have a ‘fat, lazy day’.
NEVER AGAIN.
I had pizza, rootbeer a culvers concrete and french fries. Not in one sitting or anything just because I felt like being ‘fat and lazy’. My stomach is STILL making me pay. It decided to fight back. It’s saying, “you haven’t eaten like that in months and I’m going to show you why you shouldn’t.” So not worth it.
“Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels..” ??? Please. You know when you’re hungry and living by the fat girl code that a piece of pizza is HEAVEN. I never bought into that saying. When I get a little discouraged I try to look at old pictures of myself and give myself a reminder of what the “old me” was like. Think about your kiddo. That’s all the motivation I need. They deserve a healthy momma.
P.S. I’ve never commented on your blog but I read it all the time. I LOVE it.
Motivation is tough. What about signing up for something a little out of your comfort zone? I am running a half marathon next month, and there are many, many days when I only go for my run because I don’t want to waste that registration money!
I do so much better with a “training program” that has a definite end date. I’ve already signed up for a 10K a month after the half marathon so that I need to start running again right away instead of saying, “well, I just ran 13 miles, I can eat 2 cupcakes as a reward.” every day. for a month. or something equally unhealthy.
I just want to keep typing the words
WEIGHT WATCHERS
you know, the non-plan, plan where you can have pizza, or a pumpkin spice latte and not throw your skinny jeans in the trash with your motivation.
the plan where food is good and fun and edible.
the plan where you actually do re-learn to eat.
weight watchers. weight watchers. weight watchers.
dude. Done Weight Watchers. HATED IT.
Done it three times. Hated it all three times.
Blair,
I agree that being at 205 and happy is 100% better than when you were 190 and sick. But…. you can have them both!
How tall are you? I am 6’0″ and was 187lbs pre-pregnancy and now am at 177lbs. I feel the best I have felt in several years. I still realized that ideally I’ll shed another 10-12lbs.
My motivation is God and my son. Hunter is 11 months old and walking all over the place, I know that I want to be in the best possible shape, so that I can keep up with him with no problem, as he gets older. I also try to remember this verse:
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. Corinthians 6:19-20
Hope that helps. You can do it, you are a strong, beautiful, and faithful woman!
Maybe its a good idea to just keep enjoying the weight you’re at for a little bit. It might help you get your motivation mojo back later on and sure sounds like alot more fun than trying to force weight loss on yourself.
I’m so done at that bible quote. LMAO!
I’m starting to have the exact SAME feelings! My clothes all button effortlessly now, and I keep having the thought in the back of my mind like “well, I’m gonna try to have another baby soon, so what’s the point of continuing to lose??”
Take your time, perhaps focus on living off Nutrisystem, which will maybe teach you some new low-fat recipes and make you consious of what you’re eating, and without even trying you could lose weight?? Hey, it could happen!!
http://outofrealworld.wordpress.com/2010/09/20/wwbd-the-rule-of-halves/
“in an “oh, I lost the baby weight & can fit into my pants” unmotivated”…Totally with you on that. my post-preggo pants are falling off of me; technically I fit into my pre-preggo pants; but I still have 15-25 pounds to lose to be in my healthy weight range. I really believe that you can’t get motivated from anyone but yourself. That switch has to turn on in your brain that says “That’s it. I’m sick of making excuses and I’m getting back on that ****-****ing bandwagon YET AGAIN!” (sorry, that’s what just went through my head last week, but it was totally uncensored)
Until then, try to figure out what really does motivate you and will make that switch flip back to “on”.
And, BTW…I have totally glued my face to a model’s body and taped it to the fridge. Friggin hilarious…useless…but hilarious.
actually, chicken fried steak tastes even better than skinny feels.
i hear ya with the motivation, you’ll find it. you’re doing great.
::eats some cucumber slices and wishes for that chicken friend steak::
love ya, girly.
It’s too bad that you hate WW. I freaking love it.
LOVE IT.
You look great, just embrace it and ENJOY. Maybe you just need a break from all the weight loss chatter???
I hate that I hate it, too.
If that sentence made any sense.
I’ve seen folks have great success on it, but I haven’t liked it any of the three times I’ve tried it, for various reasons.
You REALLY wanna know what motivates me? Lingerie. Buy it. Then picture yourself in it. Then picture your guy when HE see you in it. And before you know it you’ll be picturing yourself on the treadmill (or whatever) because THAT is motivational.
When your CLOTHES fit and look great on you, that’s the end of THAT motivation, but neked? That’s different.
can I ask why you hate weight watchers?
I honestly never lost weight on it. Maybe 10 lbs in 9 months before my wedding?
This is going to make me sound like an asshole, but I HATED the meetings because I’d go & be the “skinny girl” there that only had 10 lbs to lose. & then we’d have to do “group work” & I never felt like I found a good fit of motivation there.
But without meetings, it was way too easy to slide back into old habits.
I even tried going with friends & doing the program with friends, but they’d back out, so that didn’t work as motivation.
Blows.
Can I just say I’m floored you weigh 205. You look much thinner than that number. Are you crazy tall or something?
When I got unmotivated I just kept doing it. Not because I felt passionate about it, but because it was routine. And keeping to my routine was far more satisfying than trying to lose weight. The passion came back later.
Thanks, J
I am an Amazon. 5’11″
as in, what was it? Because for me it’s liberating to know that I don’t have to sacrifice family dinners, or holidays or birthday parties, or be the lady that pulls out a veggie wrap at the office lunch party… but that I can control my eating by making healthful choices, by using my flex points and by earning back points by exercising.
I just wonder how it went wrong for you. I mean, it’s definitely not instantly gratifying like a low carb diet where you start and a week later you’re down 12 pounds. It’s slow and steady and that can be a drag
I am that girl that has not lost her baby weight yet (13 months later) however I won’t be going to my high school reunion.
My feeling is that I SHOULDN’T have to lose weight.
I know I’m in denial
I have the same problem. Most of the time, I’m content. I do fit in my pre-pregnancy clothes.Although – I’m not happy when I see myself in pictures. However, that doesn’t motivate me to lose weight. I’ve never been good at dieting. I’ve lost weight in the past just by working out and eating less, but that was when I was single and I had more motivation to look good (plus I was 6 yrs younger). I know that sounds awful, but since my husband is happy with how I look and tells me all the time – I guess it doesn’t motivate me as much to lose weight.
I’m 5’6″ and 165lbs – I can’t believe I just admitted that. I definitely need to lose weight. I am pretty good with exercising, because I’m fortunate to have a gym at work. But it’s the eating. I cannot stay on track! I’ll do good for a week, and then cave. I think I just lack the discipline. I would at least like to get into a healthy range – which I think would be around 150.
Then of course, I tell myself that I’m getting pregnant soon so why bother losing weight. Might as well wait until the next baby. I’m good with excuses, huh?
I am totally with you on the unmotivated thing. I lost 20 lbs last year and gained 10 back, yet, as much as I tell myself that I want to lose the 10 again, I am just not motivated to actually do something about it! I’ve just gotten comfortable and I guess subconciously I must be okay with the extra 10 pounds ’cause I’m definitely not doing anything about it.
[now back to my Mud Slide cookie from Einstein's...mmmm]
Okay, Bonzer, back off on the WW talk. Blair said she hates it, so she hates it. And yes, your comment was dick-ish. You can tell the truth without being a bitch.
Blair,
No, 205 may not be ideal, but here is where I tell you, like you’ve told me, that it is okay to cut yourself some slack. It is okay to take a month off, make it a point to maintain, and then come up with a new plan. A new goal. It is completely, totally okay. In fact, it might be what you need.
As for eating plans that work, I’m really digging MyPlate on Livestrong.com. It’s a simple calorie-tracking program with pre-loaded nutritional information for over 20,000 grocery items and restaurants. (Seriously, I haven’t found a thing that ISN’T in there yet–even my Junior Triple Lindy is in there.)
It makes me accountable to me. I do not like seeing the calorie bar for the day turn red. When (if) I exercise, I can search for what I did and it will estimate how many calories I burned doing that activity. Then it will add that back to what I can eat for the day.
Okay, I’ll stop with the novel. Let me know if you want to chat Livestrong and I’ll tell you more about it.
You know what’s worse then being the girl who never lost the baby weight? Me. That’s right me. I’m the girl who lost the baby weight inthe first 3 months and then gained half of it back, twice. Yup I didn’t learn after Aiden and the same shit happened after Caleb. Now, now I’m just fat girl:(
blair,
im a momma of a 7.5 month old peanut. i am a little nutzo about fitness and eating healthy; there are 2 things that sit in the back of my head that keep me motivated.
1. everything i do, everything i eat, every bad relationship i have with food- my daughter will see it ALL and will most likely view this as normal…. not OK to have her obsess and feel insecure as I have before.
2. repeat in head “change your habits, change your life” our habits have gotten us to a place that we are not entirely happy with. yes, eating cupcakes and watching a movie is WAY more fun than say running a mile and chowing down on some fro yo- but how do you feel after both?!
what about giving up MCFATTY Monday, maybe switching to McHealthy Monday? Where we talk about foods we cook, new workouts we’ve tried, things we are making for our babies that are healthy… and just packing away the scale for a bit?
I can tell you’re fully saturated on weight loss talk and probably borderline in “shut down” mode.
So maybe pack it up for a month? Or two? Come back in December or whenever you’re ready?
But don’t just dump us McFatty followers, give us something, mchealthy.. or screw the whole stupid “MC” thing in the beginning and just have one day a week where we can talk about exercise, cooking, being burnt out on both, etc?
I think it’s funny that I’m supposed to make some sugar coated ass kissery post on weight loss and diet, because that would be polite… but then get called a BITCH by the person teaching me said etiquette.
Not mentioning any names there miranDUH
*sits in a corner with Blair, hating WW*
Blair – I completely understand where you’re coming from, but I agree w/ bonzer, 205 is not a healthy weight for you and Nutrisystem is not the answer. I’ve lost 60 lbs over the past year. It hasn’t always been easy and I’ve lost my motivation lots of times. Here’s what works for me:
First, I want to be healthy because I want to be here to enjoy all those little moments with my son. That might sound cliche, but when I started this journey I weighed 245 lbs (I’m only 5’8″), was borderline diabetic and hated the way I looked. Heart disease and diabetes run in my family. I don’t want the same fate.
Second, I never want my children to have the relationship with food and their bodies that I have with mine. It’s important to me to establish good eating and exercising habits and healthy self image in them. I realize that in order to do that for them, I have to be able to do it for myself. Lead by example.
Third, when I start to get frustrated/unmotivated by a lack of movement on the scale or visible results, I reevaluate what I’m doing. Trust me, no one’s diet is perfect and you can always make improvements. When I first started I just made little changes. The difference is, I keep doing that. I don’t count calories or points or anything else. I just make simple changes that go a long way. At this point, I don’t really like to eat fried/greasy food. I also don’t eat food that’s loaded up with perservatives and sodium (a la Nutrisystem). They make me feel gross. Instead, I cook everything. It’s honestly not that hard and it doesn’t take that much time. I spend an hour on Sunday and meal plan. My husband and I each take part of the list, with me going to certain stores and him going to others. That makes the grocery shopping much easier and faster. I know you’re probably thinking that it would take too much time, but I promise, I actually spend less time by meal planning and cooking everything. I’m more than happy to send you some quick, easy weeknight recipes if you want them, just let me know.
Fourth, reevaluate your workouts. I don’t know what you’re doing, but from your posts it seems like you mainly walk. Maybe you sometimes do the 30DS or a yoga video. Commit to something, Blair. Find something that’s hard core and completely out of your comfort zone. Trust me, you’ll see and feel results much faster and it makes sticking to a workout regimine much, much easier.
Finally, if all else fails, I take a picture of myself in something I WANT to wear, not something I CAN wear. Like you, my pre-pregnancy clothes fit great so I find that it’s necessary to pull out the string bikinis and miniskirts from 5 years ago. One look at I look like in that, and motivation is almost instant. =)
Good luck. I hope that you decide to keep at it. You’ve worked so hard to make yourself a healthier, happier person, why stop halfway?
Wow, Bonzer, talk about a buzz kill. How about lay off?
BA, I’m feeling you. I’m not exactly at my ideal weight (I would like to lose about 10lbs) but it’s so hard to find that motivation when you’ve reached a “comfortable” weight. Even though I’m short, I’m muscular, so I’ve always weighed more than my suggested BMI. My doctors have never been concerned (side eyes bonzer), but it makes it even harder on me to find that motivation. Like, I’m never going to weigh 112lbs like girls my height. It just ain’t happening. So what’s the use?
So…where’s my point? I don’t know. If you find some motivation, send it my way. K, thanks!
I forgot to add that I still have 40 lbs to go and I find McFatty Mondays really inspirational and helpful. You can do this.
dude, i totally taped a picture of a VS model to my elliptical. cuz even though i totally know it’s airbrushed and nobody normal looks like that, i still want an ass like that.
of course, it’s nice out so i walk and my elliptical is currently storage for other junk in our basement right now, so i never have to see that skinny bitch to feel guilty about not working out more.
I think that you need to focus on another aspect of yourself that feeds your spirit, and makes you feel alive. I love to write and do yoga. I feel so beautiful while I am doing yoga, although I do hot yoga and I sweat ike crazy.
Sometimes our mind just needs a break from focusing so much on our bodies and how they look. Celebrate your sucess thus far. And if you then decide that you want to loose more wait, go for it, and if not, walk with your head held high and your shoulders back.
I don’t weigh myself and don’t believe on focusing on numbers. I have been skinny fat and I have been heavier but more in shape. You could be in the best shape of your liife at 205, regardless what the charts say.
If you feel sexy, alive and good about yourself, all I have to say is job well done!!
*deep breath*
**preparing to be attacked by the BMI nazis**
There’s nothing wrong with 205. NOTHING.
Do you feel good? Do you like your body? Are you happy? There is so much more to life than hitting a perfect number on the scale or obsessing over thigh dimples. And–in my humble opinion–ZOMG I’M ALMOST OBESE!!!–is a stupid scare tactic that will only bring on the self-hatred.
And I don’t know about you, Blair, but self-hatred never motivated me to do anything other than…uh…hate myself.
Here’s some real motivation…
You did 9 months of Nutrisystem! That shows some amazing will power and dedication, because you know my opinion of the food. So why not stop and acknowledge how far you’ve come? Why not pat yourself on the back and say, “You know? I did a damn good job with this!”
And then? Tackle another goal. Healthy cooking? Meal planning? Modifying fatty family recipes? Running? Racquet ball? Pick something that interests you–and apply your new found dedication and will power to THAT.
And know that if you could follow a hard core funky food diet for 9 months, you can do anything.
I didn’t say *I* was going to be nice to YOU, bonzer. I said YOU could’ve been less bitchy to BA.
Blah I have been unmotivated since S was born:(
Like honestly, painful, care for about 3 seconds and then decide that I cant join the McFatty Monday clan cause well…I dont have the time or energy to actually spend loosing the weight.
The biggest problem is that I am just now weaning. I was one of the unfortunate ladies who could not loose the last 10-15 lbs while breastfeeding. So I decided that since I am still a pretty small person I was OK with the weight.
In the last few weeks I decided that since I can almost fit into my pre-pregnancy pants I really ought to actually do something to get me in them.
Alas- I am still sitting on my butt roucouping from the morning while Miss S naps.
I found some old jeans hanging in my closet this weekend. They were a size 8. I haven’t worn a size 8 since my freshman year of college. What they were doing in my closet is beyond me. But I hung them up on my closet door so I could look at them all of the time. Because they are super cute jeans that I never really got to wear b/c I bought them thinking I could squeeze into them and it never happened. They are my new motivator.
Yes, you have lost the baby weight and yes you can fit into pre-baby clothes. But don’t you want more? You just need to find your new motivation. And it will come to you.
I like the idea of McHealthy Monday… it’s got a positive spin to it!
BMI was never meant to be used as a way to determine how much people should weigh. I was a gymnast for years and have a lot more muscle than average. I have had a body composition analysis and my healthy weight is 20lbs above the BMI range.
And bonzer, you seem charming and all, but enough with the WW crap! If you are looking for the ‘Most Annoying Award,’ you’ve won!
http://theheirtoblair.com/2010/07/19/im-committing-to-losing-a-9-month-old/
That was BARELY 2 months ago. so where could this go in the next two months? with harrisons first bday, thanksgiving, etc…
And with that, I’m done. Because once again, I’m a big mean bitch that just isn’t interested in being an enabler.
and Rachel, I’m pretty sure blair isnt’ a gymnast. what next , the old ” she’s just big boned” copout?
I think you are beautiful, Blair. And at 5″11″ did you say? I can’t imagine that 205 is *that* unhealthy. I think mcfatty mondays is more about making choices and changes to better yourself…at least that is how I am doing it. That is how you inspired me to do it. I think that going off nutrisystem for a while is good. I mean, you can’t stay on it forever, right? Eventually you have to learn/get used to eating *real* food and making those good choices for yourself.
I love what you do here.
Oh and I failed to mention in my post today that this past week? I was a bloat machine from my period too. I think that is where some of my weight gain was from.
If you fit into your clothes and like what you see, take a break! Good for you! I’m the same, I’m settling for a weight that let’s me fit in my clothes. My time is too precious right now to worry about swimming suit skinny. Id far rather spend time with my one year old who is changing so fast!
i heart bonzer.
you are so not being bitchy – it’s called honesty.
Jaci and I think alike.
I’m on the break mentality too…le sigh.
Its taken me this long to jump on the bandwagon. Right when William turned 10 months (Sept. 2) I decided to start Weight Watchers. I’m not here to sell them to ya but I’ve had great success so far. 7 lbs. in 2 weeks is pretty good to me!! I don’t stay for the meetings or anything but I NEED the accountability of someone weighing me every week. My 300lb. husband said he would weigh me….but I passed on that one = )
Anyways you writing about this every week (whether you’ve lost or not) is ahuge motivator for me! So stick with it!
Whatever your goal is, I know that you have motivated me to keep going, and to find something that works for me. I would kill to be 205 right now. Don’t let people tell you otherwise, you set a goal and you met it! That is amazing. I am still struggling for mine. Take a break, enjoy where you are, then re-evaluate and set a new one. Just don’t back slide during your break!
I find I lose the most weight when I’m not focusing on the weight. I know I need the endorphin kick from a good workout or even a nice long walk. It keeps my anxiety disorder in check. And when I eat healthily (is that a word?) my stomach doesn’t hurt…my heartburn goes away…I set a good example for my 2 year old…and I eat with a conscience. I want to be around for my daughter’s wedding, and the birth of her children. I want to be around for a very long time. And that starts now. It will only get harder to get into a healthy routine the older we get.
I haven’t subscribed to any programs…just watching my portion sizes, eating meat only 2ce a week, and allowing one small dessert a day. Lots of fruit and veggies, and I don’t buy anything white-grained. At first it was really hard, but now I really don’t miss the empty calories at all. I guess you can make a habit out of anything – even taking care of yourself. Maybe that’s the best goal?
When I feel good about my body, when I’m happy about life, when I’m content with everything as is, I let sleeping dogs lie. There’s no reason in the world to find another thing to stress about. I say take a break. Do what you want, see how you feel, and either you’ll be motivated (to run a race, to lose more weight, to try a different program, to hire a personal trainer…whatever it is!) or you’ll remain content and you’ll live your life happy as can be.
I found that blogging about my weight loss was a lot of pressure, that frankly over time, did more to set me back than move me forward. I like to formulate plans in my head and then just do the thing (for MYSELF) and there was something about public declarations that kinda made me feel self conscious, and definitely changed the dynamic of the experience. I was honestly relieved to get pregnant so that i could do something different!! Even though I DO wish that I had lost those last few pounds.
Like others have mentioned, you can always reframe McFatty Monday’s to focus on the various aspects of healthy living, or on a new goal that you set for yourself (outside of weight loss).
http://marblesrolling.blogspot.com/2010/09/mommas-monday-check-in-1140.html
If you want new motivation – write everything down!
Go out right this second (or if not this second than tomorrow) and buy yourself a small pretty journal to stick in your purse with a pen and start using it to write down every lick of food, every bite, every morsel that goes in your mouth. You may think you know what you eat but often times this exercise shocks you.
After you’ve done this for a few days start figuring out the things you can cut (like the caramel lattes, the 3 bites of your son’s chicken, the extra bite of your husbands pizza) and you’ll find the weight will start coming off.
I did WW for 5 months after my baby was born and lost a lot of weight (60 lb) but in the end I needed to move on. I’ve since started journaling my food (and including calories when able) and honestly I’ve dropped 19.4 pounds since I started doing this 20 weeks ago.
Honestly it sounds like a drag to carry a journal everywhere at first but now it’s second nature to me and no one knows what I am doing. I jot notes in quickly and at the end of the day look at what I did right, wrong and get an overall estimate of where I stand. I am able to set goals (more veggies/fruits/ less carbs/less junk) and it’s helped me develop a healthier lifestyle for my family.
I wish I had a good tip here. I am just now dealing with figuring out life as a working mom again…not sure where this will all fit in.
http://www.ajdplusthree.com/2010/09/reality.html
I have totally written the “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” for motivation. Turns out, thats not what motivates me.
Why don’t you find some McFatty’s who have lost some weight, or found a new way to cook more healthy etc. and have them “featured” for McFatty Monday? That way it takes some of the pressure off of you to be the never failing leader.
Here’s my McFatty post for the week
http://mylittlesecretkt.blogspot.com/2010/09/mcfatty-monday.html
in my journey of weight loss, i’ve learned one thing overall that has helped more than anything: when i’m feeling unmotivated, don’t care anymore, or want to quit this “new and healthy lifestyle” and trade it in for something with more chocolate DON’T GAIN. if you’re going to stop for awhile, that’s OKAY. but don’t gain. it makes it all that much harder when you are motivated again. so instead of trying to lose weight, try to not gain. it works, i tell you!
Actually, a lot of things taste as good or better than skinny feels. It’s true. This is likely my problem. In fact, I’ll be sneaking out of the back door at work to go pick up a cinnamon roll from the fabulous bakery down the road. I’d like to lose another 10 lbs, but is it really worth missing out on things like Starbucks ice cream and big bite doozies from the mall???
Right there with you on looking for some major motivation!
I’m thinking that I’ll go shopping for clothes next week…that always seems to motivate me to get my ass in gear and get rid of some pounds. I hate trying stuff on that should look cute but just looks lumpy and gross on my body…but I, too, am starting to be ok with the mirror. Maybe we need some large muscular woman in camo to yell at us?
Good luck this week, doll!
What are you expecting? For this to be easy? Why?
You have an obsession with food. You need to break the obsession in order to stop the yo-yo dieting and negative self-talk. You need to be able to let go of it before you can ever declare yourself healthy, because even if you do lose the weight, through restriction or exercise or starvation, there is no guarantee that it won’t come back.
Food is a mind game. You need to listen to your body to know what it wants. You need to stop playing the game.
And FYI: 205 is considered practically obese by the AMA. A much healthier weight would be 175-180. By maintaining your current weight, you are opening yourself up to a whole host of diseases, especially at your young age.
this is my first ever comment to you and i’m not sure exactly what is going to come out….i know i want to hug you, but i have wanted to hug you about a million times since i started reading your blog for making me not feel so alone all the time…i hope that’s not creepy, cuz i don’t mean it in a creepy way, it’s just that lots of people “sort of” get it or are “kinda” in the same place and that’s nice, but girl, we are on the same page with everything and it’s kind of scary sometimes cuz i read your posts and i think…”when did i write that?? was i sleep-posting or something??”
i’m not going to go all off topic and start talking about all of your other hundred and ninety eight posts that made me slap myself in the forehead, cry crocodile tears or just really, REALLY start to think about things….THIS is the post i chose to leave my first comment on cuz this one…this one right here has totally blown me away….
actually, i don’t even know what to say now. i want you to know, like everybody else who leaves comments, that i am Right.There.With.Ya…..in fact, i am SO right there with ya, that 205 is my exact plateau/my motivation just flew out the window/yay! my pants finally fit me/hey! i look sort of cute today weight. in fact, that’s right exactly where i was when i got KU in May after a long, really hard 3 years where i lost my mom and lost 3 babies and thought that eating everything i could find was the solution to all of that…before i knew it, i was almost tipping the scales at 250, i had heartburn every day and i couldn’t take a flight of stairs without losing my breath. healthy.
one day i just decided i didn’t want to live like that anymore and i joined the gym and commited myself to eating nothing but lean cuisines….and i took alli (not a fun time) and it came off…and there i was in january of this year, at 205…feeling good and looking better, in pretty good shape and totally and completely a) sick of lean cuisines b)sick of taking pills and c) so totally complacent. WHY DOES THAT HAPPEN? i wanted to get rid of the same last 20 that you do…i wanted it really, really bad…but not bad enough to push myself just a little harder. i’d lost 46 pounds…the last 20 should have been a walk in the park! but i was stuck…at 5’10”, my BMI was *finally* out of the “obese” range (god…AWFUL, right?) and somehow that was good enough….sometimes i wonder if those of us who do this aren’t holding onto those last 5, 10, 15 lbs simply because we are So Terrified of having what we’ve wanted for so long…maybe it won’t be all it’s cracked up to be…maybe my life won’t be automatically perfect once i hit 165 and wear a size 10…what then? what in the ever loving EFF will i do then?? like the whole belief system will crumble, so best just to be safe and never let ourselves find out….
anyway, then in april i got KU and it finally stuck (miracle, really, but that is another comment for another day) and now i am getting yelled at by my OB for gaining too fast. enough already.
you know. i get what the pp was sayng about 205 not being a healthy weight. i don’t know what to say about that, because you and i are both very symetrical as far as i can tell….it’s harder, cuz we look in the mirror and we see correct proportions and we don’t LOOK like we weigh 205 (well, i’m pretty much up who knows how much from that these days…i won’t let the OB tell me, i just take the abuse and leave in tears)…i’m pretty sure that pp is very right and 205 is NOT healthy, but you are a runner and you’re exercising and you are HAPPY now and i think that you need to give yourself a little break and a lot of credit. sometimes all we need is a mental vacation from the structure and obsession.
the bottom line is that, even though i’ve never met you and this is my first ever comment, i want you to know i am proud of you…and also, thank you….for being so brave and for sharing so much. you’re awesomer than you give yourself credit for
and lastly, longest comment ever. sorry about that.
Right there with you. I am at my plateau and for the same reasons.
You look great!!
Your problem is sex.
Sex in your mouth.
Sex in your mouth in the form of those damn chocolate salted things that I ate my weight in!
You already know my words of wisdom beyond the sex.