No better way to say "Good morning!" than a latte.
Is there anything better than a hot cup of coffee with wonderful girlfriends? I think not.
My besties (yes, I call them “besties”) & I are notorious for Sunday morning coffee at our local Starbucks. Sometimes babies attend, sometimes it’s just the girls (like this past Sunday).
Sometimes we get dirty looks from the Q-tip crowd for:
a) pink hair
b) hogging the good seats for 2 hours
c) tattoos
d) being too loud
Or maybe the dirty looks are jealousy because my friends are really ridiculously beautiful. Even when they look serious despite the surrounding hilarity.
Sometimes, besties fly in from Florida for the event. This is Heather. She moved away a few weeks after Harrison was born & I miss her every day.
Or they drive in, like Jenny. Either way, the cameras always work their way out of our pocket books & diaper bags.
I am so not ashamed to be a “girl’s girl” & know that my girlfriends are a pillar of my life. They send flowers when I’m down. They hold my hand while I get my first tattoo. They curl up with me in my office after a particularly bad therapy session & just cry. & they keep me laughing every day, while feeding my coffee addiction.
Do you have a “tradition” with your girlfriends? A group of “besties?” Or do you live far away from yours?
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Sadly, I don’t live near ANY of besties. We are quite literally sprinkled all over the country (yay for everyone else, boo for us). But we get together once a year for THE most awesome, drinktastic reunion known to bestie-kind. No pregnancies, newborns, or husbands dare stand in our way.
I live far far away from my “besties” but when I’m back home (yes, home will always be where I grew up…Boston representin’) we ALWAYS get together with babies on our hips, coffee in our hand and laughter in the air.
No traditions yet. But I’m thinking we really need to keep the martinis flowing. I don’t want to wait until June to do that again!
I’m sending this post to my girlfriends telling them we need to start a tradition. I would like nothing more than a standing coffee, drinks, or shopping date with them. Too often life just gets in the way and then I realize it’s been 2 months since I’ve seen them or their kids.
Le sigh. I treasure these coffee dates.
That sounds so nice.
Mine live all over, two in Orlando, one in Richmond, one in Charlotte. We are trying to plan a yearly trip so we can get together but that has been difficult with me having a baby last year and Richmond getting married this year. You’re fortunate to have them close by!
The last month of pregnancy I wasn’t working and was MISERABLE. My bestie works at a salon and always had Mondays off. If it wasn’t for those “Monday fundays” with her I really would have lost my sanity. We got ice cream, watched movies, made blankets, had lunch, coffee, planned my wedding, everything. Even after the baby was born I managed to make it there just to hang out!
Sadly my girl bestie lives in California & my boy bestie lives in Japan.
I’m glad you guys had such a great weekend.
I do have a group of great friends and we get together once a month for lunch. It is a great time to chat about life and catch up. The girls I hang with are actually my friends from elementary/middle/high school. Its great to know you have people there to support you at all times!
My closest friends also happen to be family members (I have a lot of first cousins) so it makes for a unique blend. My best friend (cousin) and I have girls about 8 months apart so we try hard to find things to do together so the girls can be just as close as we are, someday. I love coffee dates, but I just can’t find the time anymore. Perhaps, I should MAKE time, huh? ::sitting at desk, dying for a latte::
That is so awesome that yall do that. I wish I had some friends like that. I got married young 18. I’m 19 now and all my friends were all going off to college or party all the time so we have nothing in common. They want beer and I want babies. It sucks , but I’m slowly trying to find girls at church with the same goals and at the same stage of life. Anyways if I had friends I would totally go to Starbucks and be overly loud with them:)
“besties” are so important and so wonderful! We live all over the place, my besties are from HS and every year since our Sr year of High School, we pick a weekend and meet at someone’s lakehouse. We bring insane amounts of food and drink, cameras, our latest craft obsession (this yr was knitting) and literally sit up and talk for 48 hours. We have a generation of “lakehouse babies” and sometimes they come, sometimes they don’t. Our goal for next year is a family weekend complete with hubbies and babes. These women are my best friends and are one of the pillars of who I am.
I just wish we all lived closer so we could sit in a coffee shop for hrs gathering ugly looks from the other patrons. =)
I call them besties too.
My bestie and I know that there is something about a box of wine (and I am usually a wine snob) that makes it all ______ (better, funnier, wilder, you pick) And some times those high school Pom tapes you hated your parents for making at the time are the best way to spend an evening.
Old friends are the best.
Ohh my first comment EVAR on a blog! Woop!
Anyways, a few of my besties live hours/states away, but my main core of besties live in the same 20 mile radius as I do. I have two sets of besties, the work/most awesome people ever besties, and the besties that I drink and have themed parties with. With the work besties, we take 2-3 shopping trips a year, which include stopping for hot cinnamon buns at a little restauarant, 11 hours of non-stop shoppin’ action, and 5 hours worth of riding in the car. Usually one of us has big news to share and will wait to reveal it on these trips. With my party besties, we get together every Thursday night at someone’s house to watch The Office. Most times, the babies are with us, so they get to be social with each other too and have a fab time. I feel really blessed to have such a close group of friends.
My best friends live all over the place. In order to stay close, we’ve kept a group blog since 2005. It’s a great way to keep in touch and nothing is better than looking back at those previous entries from years ago and seeing how far we’ve all come.
i’ve got 2 bffs that live close- not sure what i’d do without them. we’re pretty much the 3 funniest people eva.
and i bff that lievs in FL- suck. we’re the 2 coreys….too bad i died this morning (oy)
and a last bff that lives in NY- we’re 2 cool. no really- people see us & they’re like, “wow, you guys are 2 cool”
then there are my e-besties- we won’t get into that. it’s all about virtual coffee with them anyway.
I call my closest friends besties too. 2 gals and 2 guys. My favorite memory is having breakfast with them the morning of my wedding, which they all drove out for. They all live at least a 8 hour drive away. I miss them terribly. Hubs has noticed that my mental health is suffering and made the decision to move the fam back.
I have the unusual situation of being in a different world than my “besties.” We live within 30 min of eachother, but my world includes a husband, a baby, a house, and endless piles of laundry, while there’s includes a string of boys and a toliet of martinis. I love them to death, they love me, but some days it’s hard to relate to someone who doesn’t have a 401K and thinks a hard week is trying to fit in two parties and a bar opening.
You truely have a great group of friends Blair!! Treasure them! I’ so glad you got to surround yourself with love and friendship this weekend. You deserve it!
I sadly moved away from washington 5 years ago and all of my besties are still up there. I have since then made a few close ones and we make a date to meet the first wednesday of every month at coffee bean, no babies allowed… and we just catch up for a good hour or two. I look forward to it every month.
-alysha
http://www.thetarrpit.blogspot.com
I love that you have those girls – friends are the best. I have two really good girlfriends that I spill everything too and I don’t know where I would be without them. I have my sisters too – we’re all at different stages in our lives but I love them with all my heart.
I live close to 3 of my besties and we have girls’ night every week. It used to be Gilmore Girls night, but then that show got canceled!
Each of us contribute something to the night, appetizer, drinks, dessert and whoever hosts it makes the main dish. Sadly one of us has kind of pulled back b/c her husband works odd hours and she doesn’t like leaving him with 2 kids as soon as he walks through the door. I have two other besties that I live far away from…no real traditions other than after Valentine’s Day the one in FL and I always buy each other one of those insane crazy heart-shaped candy boxes at 75% off and mail it to each other. It’s like a competition as to who can get the cheesiest one. The best was the year she found one with Elvis on the front and sang ‘Love Me Tender’ when you opened the box! 
Blair – first of all – I think I have a crush on you. haha. I find you hysterical and so very brave for dealing with a new baby, a husband, a job and PPD. You’re my hero!
I wish, I wish, I wish that I lived close to my best friends!! I went to school in PA so all of my “besties” live there still today. I came back to Jersey after school and so I’m the odd ball out. We do get together about every 2 months for just catching up, new babies, new houses or any other major events. I wouldn’t have it any other way. My girls are my heart and I love them so much!! I’m not really a girly girl, but I don’t know what I would do without my 5 ladies.
Awwwwww. I love my besties. When do we get to go to Coffee again???
My bestie lives far far away from me
But we do have a habit of sending tons and tons of emails back and forth in one day.
I don’t exactly have a group of girls I’m BFF’s with (I generally get along better with guys), but the 3 or so of my very close female friends are all far & away
. I’m so jealous you get to see yours so frequently-definitely helpful to have an amazing support system like that 
We regularly do GNO (girl’s night out) or GNI (girls night in, where we get together and cook)! They keep me sane!
This makes me more than a little jealous. I really miss time with the girls since I had my little ones. Since I have twins, I feel bad about leaving them home with my husband for too long (I don’t know why, since I am with them all day, every day), and I don’t have any “mom friends” (yet). It’s something I really need to work on before I start feeling isolated. You’re lucky to have a group of good friends around you, B.
I live far away from mine. This makes me jealous of your get together. I used to having knitting get togethers while we watch silly reality shows.
I kind of feel, though, that being online with all my mommy blogger friends is a girl’s get together. Is that weird of me?
The woman I consider to be my best friend lives in Chicago. I live in Tennessee.. But when we see each other it’s like no time has passed. I’m not particularly girly or affectionate but I do love her like a sister.
I’m also ridonkulously blessed in that I have about 33 “besties” in my chorus mates. I sing in a women’s barbershop chorus and all the women in it are like my best friends. True story.
Once a month, my “besties” and I have “gourmet night” where the host picks a theme, and we all bring a course related to that theme. The food is always delicious, and the wine and martinis flow like water
If our poor husbands EVER saw how these nights were, they’d question why they even married us 
It’s the best!
My sister and I grew up with 2 other sets of sisters and we’ve always been friends. Our lives may have taken different roads, some clear across the country, others right here at home, but we will always be friends.
We attended our first concert together: New Kids on the Block and we recently saw them in concert in DC where two of us flew in from California for the weekend. We all piled in one car and made the 2 hour trek while some of us slept, one of us pumped and we all had a blast.
I love those girls!
My 3 besties and I used to do a Wednesday night Girls’ Night, usually at one of our houses with great conversation, yummy food, and trashy TV. Now one of the besties is in China, and the rest of us have scaled down to about once a month. My girlfriends are my lifelines, and I can’t imagine going through anything (positive or negative) without them!
Girl time is THE BEST!! In a week and half is my annual girls tirp with my besties from college! can’t wait to hit up New Orleans!!
Love girl time
Much needed!!
xoxo
Exgf
http://www.confessionsofanexgirlfriend.wordpress.com
Yes, and most of them revolve around food and/or coffee. Not so great on the hips but wonderful for the heart. It’s been awhile since I’ve really gotten a GROUP together but I usually do end up with one of them every week…at Starbucks..LOL
I don’t live near any of my besties, but we make sure to Skype on a regular basis, and we do it like we’re sitting across from each other at the bar….with beers in hand. The only thing that sucks is that I can’t hug them when I leave.
i’ve found an awesome group of women in town who have babies my daughter’s age. we’re actually having a picnic in the park tomorrow morning. i never was a girl’s girl so thank god for women i can stand!
I had a group of girl friends that were my besties. We’d get together every weekend. Either for brunch, dinner, drinks, game night, shopping…whatever. We were each other’s rock. However, after I had my daughter things changed. They kind of left me out in the cold (I’m the only one on the baby track as I’m a few years older). I still see them and I’m still a part of their life, but it’s almost like I make them uncomfortable…I don’t know. So I’m kind of hurting and nostalgic right now about it.
You’re lucky. Cherish them.
I have a group of girlfriends that I get together with once a month for our “Girls Night Outs” which are really girls-night-in at someone’s house for good food, good wine, and good conversations! Sometimes our little ones tag along, the ones that are still little enough to just hold and fall asleep in our arms while chatting, and sometimes it’s just us girls, like you said.
I also get to spend every lunch of the week with a good group of girlfriends, my fellow 1st grade teachers and I eat lunch together in my room every day and enjoy our less-than-30 minute lunches to gab, gossip, and get in some adult time (seeing as the other 380 minutes of our day are spent with 6 year olds!)
I have a bestie also and there’s only one bestie but she lives in FL. She moved there a couple of years ago. I am Indy Bestie and she’s Miami Bestie. It’s hard to keep up with her now that I am a mom. We just live different lifestyles. We’re trying though bc afterall we are besties. I am also originally from Ohio and I have a group of friends there and we get together every Xmas for what we call a holiduhian. It’s a blast. And lastly I have my indy girls and well we always have a good time no matter what we are doing!
haha You seriously crack me up! It’s weird, I’m kind of a loner but have a couple different groups of besties. My college besties…where they too were there with my tongue ring (which I don’t have anymore) and tatoo on my foot that hurt so bad it’s not finished! (my dad has sleeves…and I think how in the hell!!!) My besties from my home town (central PA) and my Philly besties. I like to have a mix! lol And we are all sooo different. The reason to love them even more! Great post!
I love Harrison. I really do. But I’m glad you’re getting to spend quality time with your besties, with & without the men in your life. As I grow older I realize I need that time more and more.