Someone should probably nominate me for a date with Clinton & Stacy.
You know those folks that have an incredibly innate, natural, check-out-how-cool-&-creative-I-am style about them?
I am so NOT one of those people. On the other hand, if I have any redeeming quality, it is probably my lack of denial over my lack of style ability. It took me until I was well out of college to discover designer jeans & as you’ve probably noticed in many pictures (including those below), I still rock the looped ponytail circa 7th grade with wild abandon (at least I don’t wear a hair ribbon anymore, mmkay?). I do feel, however, that I have a decent excuse for my poor excuse for a wardrobe – from 8th grade until senior year, I was stuffed into a polyester cheerleading uniform twice per week (oh yes, we wore our uniforms in class on game days). Then in college, I wore sorority T-shirts & jeans. With pearls, but still, no real need for style. So I have never really had to develop my own sense of style.
& it shows. It is not intentional — I WISH I was one of those people that always looks put together, or that is always one step ahead (hell, I’d give my right arm to just be right in step). Sometimes I want to look totally comfortable & natural, rocking my Chacos with a pair of jeans that are lovingly broken in. College T-shirts & chapstick. Other times, I want to channel Audrey Hepburn in my pearls, perfectly pressed blouses, dresses, & heels. & then I want to squeeze into a slim pencil skirt, gaping button-down, & trendy jewelry. But at the end of the day, it barely matters because my job requires me to dress conservatively & to be successful, I must portray myself older than my mere 26 years. Which is a hard task, considering I can still easily pass for a young college student but I refuse to feel frumpy & shop at Chicos.
Add to that confusing equation the fact that NONE OF MY CLOTHES FIT. (thank you, Harrison!) So even my eclectic wardrobe is worthless at this point. & the sad thing is, I return to work in less than two weeks & last time I checked, I couldn’t wear yoga pants to the office. DISLIKE.
Enter in Christmas, & these lovely work outfits. & my readers, who shall lovingly offer critique & advice as I give you a wee fashion show. I NEED STYLE, PEOPLE. & if I have one goal in 2010, it’s to not “let myself go” now that I’m a mother. In my dreams, I step out of the car at daycare to drop off Harrison & the other moms think to themselves, “How does she do it? How does she look so chic & put-together with an infant? I want to be Blair!” (Yes, that’s right. I’m narcissistic enough to admit that it would be nice to have another mother side-eye me in mild envy. Then again, I never claimed to be perfect – I just daydream of creating the illusion.)
I like to think that Tuck is admiring the cute pleats on the back of the skirt. The skirt’s a little long for my taste, but I have to remember that a) I have stretch marks on my knees that the public should not be privy to & b) my clients don’t want to see my tugging down my skirt length when I sit, lest I look like a two-bit whore. I do, however, adore the cardigan & blouse. The sweater to the right is super-soft cashmere & wool…absolutely delicious to wear in winter. But I feel it’s missing something. Thoughts?
Can I take a side-note to take a personal moment of “EWWW” at the width of my hips & thighs? ::sigh:: It’s also hard not to get wrapped up in the number on the tag. I know. IT’S JUST A NUMBER. I’ll never forget the time my aunt sat me down in a dressing room & gave me some of the best advice for life (past the notion that you choose to stay married every day, but that’s another post for another time) – “It’s just a number, Blair. It says nothing of who you are, or the kind of person you will be. It doesn’t determine your strength or success, or your worth in the world. It is just a number to help you find what will make you look amazing.” Rinse & repeat through my thought processes to keep myself sane & optimistic.
This is where I really need your help. I am pretty sure that the picture on the right (the purple tunic) is chic right now. At least, that’s what People.com tells me when I peruse their celebrity photos. But to be honest, I’m not sure that I am “chic” enough to pull it off. You should know that patterned tights & big earrings are a far stretch out of my comfort zone. Am I doing it correctly? Should I wear a necklace instead of big earrings? Big earrings and a necklace? & when it comes to the orange sweater, I am lost. Nate thought it looked really cute & sporty with jeans & the shirt underneath, but I need something that will work for the office with it. & I’m considering nixing the long-sleeved shirt underneath, although it would be chilly on 40-degree days. My mother purchased a wool skirt to wear with it, but the top is far too long for a skirt without making me look stumpy (which is quite a feat, considering my nickname in middle school was the Jolly Green Giant. which always made me cry into my binder behind my locker door. I was totally that nerd that got picked on constantly until 9th grade).
I digress.
So to those of you that have style, a thumb on the current trends, etc, please feel free to leave your advice. Where do you shop? Do you find it hard to balance youth & professionalism? Are your work clothes kid-friendly? What do you budget for clothing? Do you have weekend clothes & work clothes? What does your work wardrobe look like? What type of accessories are you into & where do you find them? Trust me, I’d appreciate anything at this point.
& anonymous? considering this kind of post totally double-clicks the mouse in your undies, please know that the whole “you’re fat & ugly & frumpy” bit is stale.
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I’m far from “chic” but I think the orange sweater would look nice with a belt on top. Not a fan of the blue thing.
Longtime reader first time poster…lol
I love, love, love what your aunt told you about the size ( number) on your clothes…as a first time mother to a 4 month old, I sooo needed to hear that!!
I do not care for the orange sweater with a shirt under it..nms. But the tunic is nice! You need a necklace and maybe a bracelet. Heh, but then again I am not very fashion saavy myself. Good luck!
I’m not much of a stylista either but I think those outfits look chic, I am not really one for the style of the orange shirt but I think it looks great on you. The purple tunic seems a little to baggy.
I am so far from “chic” or heck- even cool- but I ADORE that orange sweater with black long sleeves. As far as the violet (?) tunic deal- it is way chic…to the point I would give you the side eye when you drop your kid off and think “psssh- she thinks she so cute” and secretly be jealous.
I think the white sweater needs a longer necklace. One that has color to it that will hit below the bust to add interest and break up the white. I too am not a fan of the dress, I dont think it is fitting you properly. Can’t help you with the orange, it is not a color that I can pull off without looking like a creamsicle.
Here are my thoughts on your outfits:
1. Green/skirt – ABOSOLUTELY ADORABLE! I love it. Dont change a thing.
2. Pink sweater – If it was me, I would have chosen a long bead-y necklace (black/grey) instead of a short, thicker one.
3. I like the orange outfit – not as much as the green/skirt one, but I do like it and I wouldnt change anything.
4. I am not a fan of the blue one… It could be in style, but it’s not personally my taste. HOWEVER, if you wanted to wear it, if I was you, I would keep the dress simple and use big/bold accessories, like keep the earrings youve got on there, but add a long, bead-y necklace (like in the pink sweater) but add another 1 or 2 also long necklaces (still black). Plus I might even add a clunky bracelet to see what it looks like.
Not that I think I am a style-pro, I’ve just got my own opinions on what I think looks good, so those are my thoughts.
PS I love your shoes in the green/skirt outfit and the pink outfit.
The first outfit is super cute. The second one is really sweet, but I agree with you, a bit on the plain side (that’s the root of my problems too .. zzz, boring). The bottom two outfits are only okay for me.
Oh and I might add the big belt to the blue dress (not the orange one, like a PP suggested).
I wouldn’t exactly call myself chic either, but I think the major accessory you’re overlooking is belts. You know the kind. The ones that you wear up around your natural waist and not actually in your belt loops. They will help accentuate your waistline, and I know that isn’t necessarily what you want to do three months postpartum, but trust me, it will make you look thinner.
Go buy several that you like, try them on with your outfits at home and then return what you don’t like. I think a skinny black one would be divine with the white cardigan. And something as simple as a satin ribbon from a craft store could take the frump right out of the blue dress.
As for the orange, I think you’re rocking it. I suppose since I’m talking about belts here, you could add in a brown leather one, but I think that might be borderline over accessorizing.
You’re right about the black skirt, it is a little long, but sometimes function needs to take precedence over form.
Go get yourself “The Lucky Shopping Manual.” Or at least go to a bookstore and skim it. It’s a great reference guide for the wardrobe challenged; helping you build your closet from the ground up with non-trendy, timeless essentials. I use mine like a bible.
Now that I’ve written a book on “How to dress Blair” I’ll leave you alone.
I think you could pull off the orange sweater (sans black top) with the pants you’re wearing in the pic with the cream sweater. Ditch the long earrings with the dress, and go with a chunky necklace and bracelet instead. Tuck in the white shirt under the turquoise cardigan. Maybe add a colorful pin. You can also wear the pants with the turq sweater. I agree with the previous comment about the necklace, definitely get one that’s longer. Stein Mart or NY & Co have quite a selection of accessories. Good luck with putting together a post-baby work wardrobe that satisfies you!
I agree with the longer necklace for the second sweater- that necklace just doesn’t work. I think the orange outfit works ok. I would add a black belt and a chunky black bracelet for the last outfit, and wear your hair down because wearing it up with the dress makes you look a lot younger than 26.
One, more and then I’m done.
Maybe change the shirt under the orange sweater to a dark brown to keep from looking too Halloween-y.
Also, I read the replies that posted while I was typing and I agree that a longer beaded necklace would be nice with the white cardigan/black pants combo. Though it may not be kid friendly.
I too am not stylish myself. But the shirt under the orange needs to go. You do need a necklace with the purple tunic also lose the earrings. But you are a very pretty woman. I believe that if you think you look good MOST of the time you do.
I will be having the same problem soon when I look for a more traditional job in an office. It is definitely difficult to be a young professional and look old enough, but not too old. Try shopping at New York and Co. if there’s one around. They have great options for people of all ages and they also have a lot of great accessories and colors too!
For the first outfit: I agree that the length is a little long. Try getting it hemmed just a tad to lay right at the bottom of your knee that way it’s not too short and will give you a slightly taller look. Also look into a necklace…you could wear something like pearls with this or a shorter, not too long necklace. Love the color!
Second: Try wearing a little color with it. Do you have a cami or tank with a nice color that you can put under it? The color will make the outfit really stand out. It can also be a collared shirt as well.
Third: I like the orange sweater and agree that you should wear a long sleeved top underneath. The only thing I would think of would be darker jeans. The darker, the more dressier.
Fourth: The blue tunic is great, but needs a belt and long necklace with it. I would not wear big earrings with it, but small ones that coordinate with the necklace.
Hope this helps. Love reading your blog!
I’ve read your blog for so long and was finally compelled to post by your call for help!
Accessories!! Cute, lightweight scarves always class up an outfit. One with a fun print would really add to the cashmere sweater outfit. Same with the blue tunic. A suggestion for the tunic : maybe opaque black leggings and cute flats instead of the boots and tights? It’s a bit more casual, but probably you’ll feel a bit more like you.
My thoughts on the orange sweater – if you wear it without a shirt underneath, I think you could wear it with a wide legged black pant for work. If you go with jeans, I’d also do a wide leg dress jean – dark wash.
I think the first outfit is adorable – especially the headband.
Good luck!!
The first outfit is cute, but I feel like it’s pulling too much down the middle.
The second outfit is adorable. I think a nice chunky long necklace would finish it off nicely.
I LOVE the orange on you. With a pair of khakis or some chocolate brown curdoroys – it would be perfect. It’s also super cute with the jeans for the weekend.
I think some bangle bracelets would look cute with the tunic dress.
zomg, we’re the same person! (minus your wit of course) My nickname in middle school was Jolly Green Giant. I am 5’11″ and am about to go back to work after 2 months on maternity leave. I went shopping for new clothes yesterday and almost had a minor meltdown. You look great, and I love your outfits. I would put a necklace with the tunic, and some dark brown pants with the orange sweater.
Green sweater outfit: chunkier necklace to give it a more hip look
Second sweater outfit: maybe a long colorful scarf or even a small leapord print tie scarf (to match the cute shoes) to bring pizzazz…the current necklace isn’t accenting it. You could even unbutton it a bit and bring in a bright splash of color with a crimson camisole underneath.
Orange Sweater: I like the look. Try it with Brown Slacks and a brown shirt underneath with a bold chuncky bracelet to give balance to the large cowlneck. Some bright funky colorful heels would pizzazz it up as well.
Blue tunic: definately needs something up top. The neckline it too plain to wear like that. A bold necklace or again long scarf.
My job does not allow me to dress up too much and so I try to go with trendy tops and accessories over jeans or dress pants as my shoes have to be fairly conservative due to safety. This lends to being able to wear the same things on the weekends which is actually kind of boring but budget friendly.
I’ve been reading your blog for quite awhile and am finally going to post instead of just stalk haha. I heard about you on the bump, we were pregnant around the same time, I have a baby girl born Oct 26. At any rate, I have no idea how chic or fashionable I actually am, but I love shopping, and here’s what I’d do if it were me:
1st outfit: I’d probably wear a short necklace that tied the turqoise and black together underneath the top. And a big-a black patent structured handbag. (I love ginormous handbags. Makes me feel like I’m smaller than I actually am haha)
2nd outfit: I agree with previous posters that a long, possibly chunkier or metallic necklace would really spice up this outfit. Maybe even with a darker cami under the cardigan and the first couple of buttons undone?
3rd outfit: I think this looks great, but would benefit with some darker straight leg pants. The sweater might look “fancier” with a cream long sleeve shirt underneath it too if you decide to wear it to work. I also think a fun bracelet might be nice.
4th outfit: I like this outfit and it’s certainly in style, I just think you need a belt to define your waist more. I think it’ll be more flattering that way. And if you choose to not wear a necklace, I’d probably wear my hair down.
I think really it’s just all about the accessories. And I love buying accessories from NY & Company. They’re definitely affordable! Hope that helps!
Well, as a new mom myself (September 22 for my boy!) I’m having the same problem, and am also starting back to work on January 4th, SO….
Enter NY & Company. Stretchy, wide leg pants, cheap(ish) and cute necklaces. Their shirts do not fit me right (damn nursing boobs), but their pants are FABULOUS. I find a lot of jewelry at Target, Kohls and cute little shops. Don’t overlook anything – even Walmart has good jewelry.
I think you’ve gotten some great suggestions for the outfits – it’s so hard to find cute clothes post baby, but I’ve found that if I FEEL good, I portray so much more confidence.
I am refusing to consider buying new spring clothes. I have a ton of awesome, cute spring clothes just WAITING to be worn after a season of non-use.
I also dream about people thinking I look so great and pulled together in my clothes at daycare drop off. We can only hope…
BLAIR!
I won’t lie, I am a fashionista. I love that you posted this. Here is my two cents–
1) Love the shoes, needs a chunky necklace (bold color or black), get the skirt hemmed to just above the knee and add some sheer black tights. Perfect for work. I will stress that the skirt length is shortening your height! Love the sweater, love the color. Did I mention I love the shoes?
2) Love it. Add a cami underneath that hits at the widest part of your hips and it will pull the whole thing together. A bold color / jewel tone would be great. The necklace works but a long necklace will elongate your torso and make you look taller.
3) I’d love to see a darker jean with this shade of orange. The jean shape is good–I can’t see the back but it looks like it hits the floor, which is what I prefer (1/2 inch above, actually). I’m not loving the black/orange combo… I keep thinking pumpkin… I would do a white long sleeve underneath. I have a very similar combo I wear myself. I do think there should be some sort of “wow” moment here. A cocktail ring? A gorgeous chandelier earring? A big gold cuff bracelet? It’s your call.
4) This is a great basic piece that just needs to be dressed up and given a little shape (I also have a similar outfit). You are totally on the right track with the tights and the boots. I would wear a very wide black belt with this, a fun patterned scarf and a cute trench or pea coat. I also think you should also wear your hair down with this look. I would not be opposed to wearing smaller earrings and a chunkier bracelet (or both, if you are feeling fancy!)
Just remember, it does not have to match, it just has to “go”!
Maybe you could post pictures after you make any changes? Like a Before and After? Like on What Not to Wear? Please?
Hope this helps. Feel free to head over to my blog anytime as I think you are a bit of a genius and frankly I wouldn’t mind it at all.
xoxo
ditto on the belts.
trust me – buy some.
my weight has gone up and down all my life. i used to think belts were bad – i thought they showed too much. i’ve since realized that one needs to play up their accents…show off that waist. also don’t be shy to show more neck…show off the girls.
playing up your accents will make you feel more sexy – which in turn, will look confident.
always strive for good fitting clothes. fit & tidy will also help with mommy world domination.
a belt will help give you that polished look.
also, when i’m feeling blah, the fitted body suit or body shaper tank top ALWAYS makes me feel more confident to buy the RIGHT size (not the baggy one)and as such my clothes look better on (or so I hope!)
fashion scarves are also your friend. a belt and scarf would look awesome with the tunic.
harrison has a yummy mummy!
I’m pretty sure my boss hates me because I cannot dress at all. My idea of professional dress involves Old Navy, specifically dress pants paired with fleeces (I cannot believe I’m admitting this). I race home so I can throw on sweatpants.
You look hot in all those outfits, although I agree, the tunic is very trendy and I think like PP said it needs a belt.
Take heart, you’re not the only one out there who longs for a job that allows jeans and t-shirts. And hoodies. My idea of heaven involves hoodies (and chocolate).
The purple is too electric a colour for your skin tone. The proportions are not the right set of them for you and work against your shape – it doesn’t give you one. It should be belted and then worn over pants. DO NOT DO THE TALL BOOTS WITH IT. Lose the patterned tights too – too young.
NOT a fan of the earrings. They are too washed out for your skin tone as well. If you want to do an earring, think chandelier style but with colour. Turquoise is flattering for just about everyone.
The colours you are choosing are too WInter for you – I’d guess you are a summer. You would look better in pinks and corals. If you are going to do jewel tones, go with aubergine and more of a dark olive/hunter green – not the kelly green in your cardigan.
The cardigan/shirt combo isn’t working. You would be better off with a crew neck tank in a black/white stripe or navy/white stripe under the green cardigan and then add pearls or a scarf. Think JCrew. The pumps are great though – loved them with the skirt.
Body Shapers don’t work when you have extra skin – they just make you look like a stuffed sausage. I know this from personal experience. Having clothes taken in in the right areas is a better investment even if it means buying a bigger size to make alterations possible.
I tend to wear a column of one neutral to lengthen and then add colour through jewelry or a cowl neck wrap or coverup. If I wear large chandelier earrings, I may wear a matching bracelet but forego any necklace and wear my hair pulled back or swept up.
I go very bold and graphic with my jewelry to distract people from my weaker areas. I also choose to add bold colour in my footwear to make a simple outfit sassier.
Jeans, Giraffe Hide Pumps, Black cashmere turtleneck, fitted pinstripe blazer in charcoal and then a great necklace or killer earrings and I look ready for a meeting, Coffee with a friend or a drink after work instead of just a mom on her way to work. Works like a charm every time.
I wanted to add – the cardigan and pants. I would like to see a tank/cami in the same black as the pants under the cardigan and then a great necklace – perhaps oversized pearls with a black ribbon tie or an emerald green or turquoise stone necklace. Colour near your face will make you look refreshed and energized. The lack of colour in scale near your face makes you look drawn out.
http://www.stelladot.com has great necklaces.
The first picture is adorable. Plain and simple. The headband *might* be overdoing it, but I like a little over-done everyonce and awhile. Very cute.
Second picture: the pants need to go. The sweater is cute, but the pants are not flattering. Maybe if you wore a longer, looser sweater it could be cute, but not that one. The button up sweater is nice but I would wear plain black pants or khakis or even designer jeans. It’s just that the sweater is a little tight (not in a bad way!) but pairing it with pants on the tight side isn’t good. Any pants you wear with that sweater should fit extremely well, maybe even a *little on the loose side. The thing you think you are missing is a longer necklace- one that goes past the collar and maybe some small dangling earings.
The third picture outfit is cute, but you need to scratch the black undershirt. If it’s cold, then wear an off white undershirt. The black makes you kinda look like a Halloween pumpkin (sorry!)
You are very trendy looking in the fourth picture. You got it right, and yes the earrings are very cute. I’m sure you’ll get a lot of compliments on them. I like the tights but if it’s out of your comfort zone just wear plain black tights. That small thing will make the outfit a lot less flashy.
Hope that helps! And ALL of your shoes are perfection!
First off, I am no where near a “fashionista.”
I work in an office where everyday is casual Friday so I wear jeans everyday. I used to pair them with just t-shirts and flip flops and while that was acceptable, I realized that I just looked sloppy. So I decided to change it up.
First off, I am all about camis in lots of colors…they can really add to an outfit! I also wear a lot of thin scarves.
I have always found cute stuff at Maurices. They have misses and women’s clothes…I think their rance goes from size 2-24. They also have fun jewelry and I know at the store I shop, it’s always buy one, get one half off. Of course, I am in Indiana and I don’t know if Maurices are all over the country or not.
Also, Old Navy has saved me from my fashion slump. Most of their stuff isn’t all that dressy, but they sell fun accessories like cute scarves and shoes that can really dress up an outfit.
As for jewelry, I usually get my stuff from American Eagle. I just love it! I also love their clothes and they sell bigger sizes (and maybe talls too, I’m not sure) on their website.
My husband and I just talked yesterday about me “letting myself go” after I have our baby girl. I am due in February (47 days to be exact!!) and I have found some really cute maternity clothes, most of them from Old Navy. As of my last appt. on Dec. 19th, I have only gained 8 pounds somehow so I’m hoping it won’t take me a long time to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I have promised Ben that I will be a “hot mama.” I’ve “let myself go” before and I feel so much better actually putting in some effort with my outfits.
I wish you the best of luck with going back to work! You’ve gotten some really good advice. Oh, and I’ll have to try the belts…I think that could help me out too! Sorry, didn’t mean to ramble! LOL
I also agree with Meredith…color around the face always helps. I am guilty of wearing a lot of neutrals (black, white, cream and grey) but some colorful earrings or a necklace, or again, a colorful cami can make a huge difference!
So… I actually would consider myself fairly fashionable but of course I know you’re going to take these comments and do what you want with them anyway, so here goes my thoughts:
Outfit #1: I agree with the poster that said the sweater is pulling in the middle. Either a larger size or having it unbuttoned would be better here. Otherwise, I wouldn’t add too much or it’d be overdone.
Outfit #2: You could definitely wear the headpiece from the first outfit here to spruce it up. Either more jewelry or a cotton or satin scarf would work well here. You just need a little color to make it work better because the basics are there.
Outfit #3: If you’re going to wear a shirt underneath (and I would…don’t substitute comfort for fashion. It’s not worth it. Except cute shoes. I digress), I would wear white or grey. I think it’s the orange/black Halloween style that I don’t like. And a darker jean for work. Love the heels.
Outfit #4: Love it EXCEPT I am so not a fan of patterned tights. That’s my personal opinion but I think it totally takes the “professional” out of you. It screams YOUNG to me. Since you have the high boots, try a spandex black pant. Warmer and still fashionable without sacrificing the overall look you’re trying to achieve. I would also add a black necklace. Be careful of the belt advice. It works for RIGHT NOW (thank you Michelle Obama) but I think that looks gonna go fast.
Other comments, I know this is a quick, probably impromptu photo shoot, but I would love to see your hair down or at least partially down in some of those photos. You know, a side swiped bang would look awesome and allows you to still wear your hair up without it all being out of your face. Just a thought.
As far as where I shop:
-Ann Taylor
-Loft
-Target (heck yes. And that’s great for the “in the moment” looks you’re clearly going for)
-J Jill (awesome for our new growing and hopefully shrinking bodies… my DD was born 10/7/09 so I know exactly where you’re coming from), and
-White House Back Market.
Here is my .02, not a fashionista but I like to think I have some style and have actually been complimented at daycare by another mom for my outfits.
Outfit #1 – shorten the skirt just a bit, hem should hit right below the knee not halfway down the shin. The shirt/cardigan looks a little frumpy and wrinkly, although I don’t know if that is just the way you threw it on. I would say stud earrings and bold necklace or big earrings and no necklace. LOSE the headband. While it could be cute, not for work and not for anyone over the age of 15.
Outfit #2 – I think the flare is too big on your pants and it makes your shape look weird. The sweater could be cute, but agree with pp that you need a long chunky necklace. Shoes are cute and add just a splash of style.
Outfit #3 – Pumpkin with the black and orange. I think if you want to wear the sweater to work you should go with nothing underneath or maybe an off white? I don’t know what could make that work. Jeans are great fit, flare and length.
Outfit #4 – I do NOT like this at all. Patterned tights need to go, and the tunic has no shape to it. Maybe if you get a size down or, as pp stated, try belts and see if that will give it shape.
I will tell you that the best investments you can make are great pairs of tailored pants that fit well. My style is probably a little different than yours, but I either go with solid sweaters and great accessories (patterned shoes, the right earrings/necklace, etc…) or a print top with limited accessories and solid shoes. Love White House/Black Market, NY & Company, Limited and Ann Taylor Loft. Good luck.
I consider myself (or at least before I stayed at home with an infant all day) to be somewhat fashion forward, albeit in a more “indie” way rather than people.com kind of way! I love love love the purple dress. I think you look really fantastic in it, and it’s very flattering. I don’t know that it does much for making you look older, but as a funky piece I’m all about it.
I’m also all about adding some necklaces and scarves. I would be careful about adding necklaces that are too chunky or belts at the waistline as they sometimes add “bulk”. Try them, though. I am a little afraid of them with my postpartum self!
I never thought I would shop at forever 21 until I was stuck at home with nothing to wear and attending a funeral for a family member. If you look hard enough, they have cute sweaters or other dressy items that can be mixed and matched to go with skirts, dress pants, or jeans. They also have a lot of accessories (scarves, headbands, jewelry, etc..) that are so cheap! Most of their earrings are around $4. Anyways, I check their website and shop that way because going into the store gives me a headache, but its worth a try to look for a few key items that can get you the look you are wanting!
#1 and 2 are fine- don’t love either. You need a long necklace with the sweater on #2.
#3- don’t like the orange at all on your skin. The sweater itself makes you look bulkier than you are.
#4- Color is more for a darker complection. Don’t like the shape and if you lose any weight, I don’t think it’ll fit at all. I agree with folks regarding losing the crazy tights.
Two other things I’d do- get a textured above-the shoulder haircut that you can do up or down and I also a better fitting bra. Good luck going back to work!
Try Vanity @ N Hills for cheap necklace/earring sets.
Also, I’m adding on- I am still pregnant, but before I practically purchase all of my clothes at Steinmart because my mother used to work in the Boutique- she is like my personal shopper so I am lucky! You can get a lot of well-made basics there (woven turtlenecks, sweaters, etc), good work pants and then pull together with cheaper knit tops and such from other sections of the store. They ALWAYS have a coupon going. I keep with a lot of solid colors (like you are doing) which I can use interchangeably- then I have fun with accessories/shoes. I wear jeans on the weekend mostly- can wear them on Fridays at work, but that’s it. I don’t have any budget tips- I really shop as I need things.
I would wear the cashmere sweater open with a pretty pink cami underneath.
I love the first outfit (green/skirt) and wouldn’t change it. I’ll even admit I’m jealous of those shoes.
The second (cream sweater) is cute too, but I agree that it needs some color. I would add a chunky bracelet, and a longer necklace. If you wear your hair up add some earrings (though not huge), and if you leave it down, I wouldn’t worry about it because nobody would see them.
The third one with the orange top isn’t my favorite, but you could do a lighter color undershirt and I might like it better (probably because the dark doesn’t really “flow” with the rest of the outfit). Or if you swap the shoes for dark ones to work in the dark undershirt. Also, darker pants would probably work better for me.
I love the last one, but I would add a 2-3″ wide belt below your bust so that it accentuates the smallest point of your torso thus giving you a bit more shape. Also, I would pair those awesome earrings with a long-ish necklace, and possibly a bracelet (depending on mood). I’d choose accessories of the same color, though not the same shade.
Where? I like to get some of my shirts and accessories at Burlington, Target, and the like; Oh and NY & Company. I get shoes from where ever I find cute ones (mostly Dillards, and such), but I have been known to spend a little more on shoes than I probably should (although i don’t have any “designer” shoes i.e. Jimmy Choos, Manolos because those are WAAAY too spendy for my wallet) I usually get my work pants from JC Pennys because they have pants that actually fit my gigantic elephant thighs and because I can afford their stuff.
Kid-friendly? Maybe not, but I wouldn’t wear anything that DS spit up on or something, so I usually have a burp cloth between us when I’m about to go to work.
Youth/ professionalism – I like to wear animal prints, and bright colors. Sometimes its a bit difficult to find shirts that are appropriate for work and don’t look like something an old lady would wear, but thats why I like Burlington. They have a good variety of styles to fit pretty much any shape/taste/need, plus their stuff doesn’t cost an arm, a leg and an ovary.
i am also trying to be a bit more stylish and transition to a more ‘adult’ wardrobe!
the biggest things i’ve learned are to COMPLETELY disregard the numbers on the tag. i used to buy clothes based on those numbers (i.e. if it was a 6, i don’t care HOW ugly it was, my normally size 11 or 13 ass was buying it!). now, just go with what fits and don’t worry about the rest…no one else will see those numbers anyway!
next, i think the best thing you can do for yourself is to get clothes that properly fit. although i’m not as tall as you are, at 5’9, there are still TONS of pants that are way too short for me or other items that just don’t hit ‘right’. i’ve started collecting a wardrobe from Ann Taylor/Loft, Target, Kohls, Von Maur, and thrift stores. I’ll buy a skirt on clearance for a few bucks and then pay $20 to get it tailored (I know, it seems a bit ridiculous) BUT it then looks like I paid a lot more for it. i try to do a quick sweep of the local salvation army about once a month to see if they have anything great. also, von maur will tailor most things for free (like hemming your pants) even if you buy them at knock-down, drag-out clearance.
finally, it does look like you’re trying, but you’re right–it’s just not quite clicking. i would switch the pants and skirt in outfits 1 and 2 (and get longer pants/shorter shoes…the skirt shoes make your legs look stumpy), maybe try a 3/4 sleeve shirt under the orange in a different color, and get a belt of sorts for the purple/blue tunic.
also, i *love* reading http://www.lovemaegan.com/ —she has a ton of outfits in the archives where you can get great fashion ideas. (there’s DIY also, but i’m not really there yet!).
good luck and please do post before/after pics!
dear blair,
fashion is hard… let me help you. i’ve put your photos and my recommendations on my blog. check it out and accept my challenge for you.
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My personal favorites for chic, fun, young, professional work attire friendly on the bank account: Ann Taylor Loft, The Limited, and my new personal favorite: the Merona line at Target. Its like that stuff was made for me. Sophisticated, and a touch of vintage that I love.
You need a nice wide belt…stat! You could use it with both the first outfit, with the cardigan and green sweater AND the purple tunic. Belt around your rib cage and create the illusion of a smaller waist.
The animal print shoe in the second outfit is awesome! You could definitely use a pop of colour there though. An orange or purple scarf around the neck, or a bright bag?
The orange sweater? It’s not doing anything for you there. It’s a bit of a strange length to be paired with the jeans, but I suspect it’s too short for you to throw on leggings and feel comfortable. If possible, I’d ditch the undershirt, and go with a narrower jean tucked into a flat boot, or with a rounded toe shoe (or something like an Ugg). It’s definitely a casual piece, so you can’t dress it up too much. Another option would be a mini jean skirt, with leggings, and flat boots. I’m not sure how ‘work’ appropriate that would be though. But it would be cute!
The purple tunic just needs to be belted. It’s a little big for you.
I don’t know I can give you advice on shopping, I’m in Canada. But I shop a lot at Winners, which is our TJ Maxx, and honestly at WalMart. You’d be surprised what a $14 sweater and some black pants can do for a girl
You’ve gotten some great advice already! I won’t add to the confusion, but I definitely agree you’ve got the basis, they just need a few tweaks.
I actually have the book ‘What not to wear’ (or something similar) – I think it’s ‘dress right for your body type’ or something. You could borrow it and find out what shape you are, there’s just a few pages in there. hat I like about the Trinny & Susannah books is that they don’t talk about the number: it’s all about the shape. I found it to be inspiring and also gives you great basics advice, instead of trying to sell you something that’s in fashion now.
Okay so I’m a graduate student in the same age range as you, and while I don’t dress professionally every day (I mean please, I’m in a lab on campus) I feel like when I do dress myself, I do so well.
I think the one thing that everything is kind of missing as a constructive pointer, is to think about lines. You’re TALL – and some of these things create horizontal lines that divide you into parts and just cut inches off your height. Particularly, the orange sweater. Generally you want to avoid anything that hits you at your widest point, because that’s where it’s going to draw your eye. So if you don’t want people to notice that your hips aren’t as skinny as you’d like – don’t let a garment end there. The tunic length is really in right now, but what I’ve found is that if it doesn’t hit me at least mid thigh (where I start to look thinner), it’s just not going to work.
Again, like people have mentioned, the black skirt is cutting you off because of the length. The shoe is cute, but an ankle strap also cuts off the line of the leg, so you’re losing a lot of length because of this combination. If you don’t want to hem the length, I would suggest just a plain black pump so that you at least have line of your leg. Or if you’re wanting to change the length and hide your knees, you can hem it and wear an opaque tight (which will also keep you warm). This will create a long line of black which is complimentary and provide you with length – both of which will help you look more slender. But I do think this is your best outfit of the four. The only thing I would suggest is if you want an alternative to the headband, try a scarf tied around your neck, or a chunky necklace. Or go a with a bracelet/broach combination.
There are two things bothering me about the second outfit. One is the short necklace, and the other is the length of the pant. When standing, I do not like to show any part of the foot – again this breaks the line of the pant connecting with the shoe. While I love the shoe, this might work with a lower heel, so that the pants are longer. I also agree with others about adding a camisole. I get all of mine from The Limited because they have a great color selection and offer a lot of coupons. A camisole can add a pop of color to the bottom, a little more length on the torso, and lets be honest, it keeps things smooth under a sweater. Here it might help to wear your hair down because the color of the sweater could almost be washing you out a bit and your hair might add balance.
Okay I am going to say something that no one else has said. Take the orange sweater back. I have learned that it’s very important to only keep things in your closet that you can easily wear with several other items. Otherwise it sits there with it’s tags and is of no use to anyone. It is not giving you enough to be worth it’s cost. The shirt under it is not working, it is not a complimentary length, and cable knit with a cowl neck is adding a lot of bulk. Plus as others have mentioned, it is a little too casual to pass for professional. I think if you’re worried about being cold, you need to instead look for solid merino or cashmere turtleneck. I have gotten some at J. Crew and Express that I love and are in their third year of life and still holding up really well. Length here is again important. I like for everything to hit right at the middle of my thigh and again I almost always wear a camisole under – for the pop of color and the smoothing.
As for the purple tunic – I really like it. I like the color, and the only thing (kind of) missing is it’s not quite nipping in enough at your natural waist. I can’t tell if there is seaming to give it an actual empire waist or not. If there is and you want to add a belt, just make sure you pick one wide enough to cover all of that. Now, I have no idea why people are so against patterned tights. One, I do not think they’re young (I know women in they’re 40′s who rock them and are getting side eyed with envy at the office) and I think that again, if you have a vertical pattern you’re adding length and that is NEVER a bad thing. But pattern or not, I would vote for a more opaque tight with the boot. A quick change up would be to switch to a black pump with a black tight. And if you want to wear it out – you can add a colored tight. I have a purple turtleneck sweater dress that I wear a fuschia tight under with a black boot and a long necklace that has a fuschia bead (to tie everything together) and I love that outfit.
As for jewelry – I LOVE big earrings. LOVE them. I have been known to build entire outfits around insanely big colorful earrings. My personal opinion is that if you do a big earring – you do NOT need a necklace. This allows you to pull off a big earring and still stay sophisticated, or age appropriate. If you start wearing big earrings, a necklace, bracelet and headband, then you just look like a tween from iCarly. My other favorite thing – LONG necklaces. Again, the length is great for slenderizing, and they offer a ton of versatility because if you’re looking for something shorter you can loop it a few time. A lot of my favorite long necklaces have come from…TARGET! On clearance. Other jewelry accessories – cocktail rings for the bit of color and sparkle they can add – but this is more for the after work/dinner out look, and broaches. You can find vintage ones for cheap, or I’ve picked up a few at Belk/Macy’s/The Limited. I think they’re fun with rhinestones, but I’m also loving the fabric flowers. You can also forgo any jewelry and do a grouping on the shoulder of your cardigan for a fun remix.
But the most important thing is to be able to look in the mirror and LIKE/LOVE what you see. If I don’t like my outfit it can ruin my whole day. Because I don’t feel like I’m presenting the best version of me, and that starts to chip away at my confidence. You can take all of these comments and throw them out the window if YOU like what YOU see.
I’m pretty much in agreement with Meredith regarding what colors are most flattering for you. This is not to say I don’t like the colors you chose, I just think you would indeed look better in other colors – ones less “bright”. As for the individual outfits here’s my 2 cents:
The Green cardigan/skirt combo – Lose that headband. It just isn’t professional for the office – at least certainly not with that flower applique thingy on it! It’s cute – for the weekend if you are into that sort of thing (which I’m not, but hey whatever floats your boat…) Fit – I agree it is too tight in the bust area. I’m also not a big fan of the v-neck shirt with what appears to be a crew neck cardigan. The skirt absolutely needs to be taken up a bit – it should hit at the knee. I’m not a fan of ankle straps on shoes b/c the visually end to cut off the height – BUT in your case you can get away with that (most women cannot – sad but true). You are most fortunate as I’d kill to wear shoes like that! I’m 5’4 so it’s a big no-no for me!
Flare pant/Cream top outfit – I think this pant is universally flattering and it looks very good on you. The top is so-so but a bit on the casual side. I know other posters are in love with the idea of a belt, but I’m not a big “belt” fan in general. I’d have to actually see a pic of you in one. No, what I’d go for with this outfit is a nice cashmere sweater, maybe a nice twinset, or for REAL punch I’d go with a nice fitted blazer and here’s why – you can wear a blazer with jeans and a crisp white button down and you can wear it witha striking bold button down or a shell to work. Blazers can be very functional – you must get the right fit though. Blazers will hands down be more functional than a wide belt. Accessorize with a gorgeous necklace or chandelier earrings. This outfit just needs ONE standout piece. Maybe a nice bag, bold shoes, great lip color, earrings, a pin, a scarf – something – play with it and see what looks best.
Orange sweater/jeans – Orange is a difficult color to pull off. I’d prefer more of a “rust” or even a “peach” hue with your skin color. I’m extreme like that I guess b/c the in the middle shade of orange is not working for me. Meh. Okay let’s talk about the style of the sweater – thick cable knit is just not “slimming” if that is what you are going for and the cowl neck (and I do love a good cowl neck) paired with the vertical cable is fashion confusion IMO. I don’t care for the layering aspect either and certainly not with black. Agree with other posters that it is a bit Halloweenie …. Onto the jeans – I really think you should consider a darker wash. It’s just more flattering. Love your shoes with this though and again a nice blazer would look most polished here with jeans and heels. Ubercute!!!
The Tunic – I don’t like the patterened tights. I don’t like them in gereal though – they just strike me as too “avril lavine” kwim? go with plain solid tights. You defintely need some type of long chunky necklace and/or perhaps a funky bangle/earring – Do NOT do all three though – they need to be far enough apart to pull that look off so you simply cannot do a necklace/earring combo cuz it would look like arse……I’m not a fan of this shade of blue – it’s very bright and you can’t exactly rotate this piece in your wardrobe without it standing out – so you can wear it maybe 1-2 x a month tops…. so for me it would just not be cost effective. Also, for some reason i’m not digging the 3/4 sleeves on you. It’s merely “ok” – I think a full sleeve would be so much more flattering.
Now that i’ve prattled on and on….where to shop? I LOVE LOVE LOVE Ann Taylor and Ann Taylor Loft. Never full price mind you – they have AMAZING SALES. Truly they do. Granted, you may need to stalk the merchadise a bit, but can I just say that everything I have ever purchased there is high quality and almost always receives compliments? So stalk away. If you see something you like in the store you can follow it online or chum up a sales person who’ll call you when an item goes on sale.
BlackHouse/White Market – GORGEOUS pants and accessories here – They also seem to run quite tall so you’ll enjoy that. Again, buy on sale. Their pants typically run about $88 a pair, but if you wait you can get them for $29.99 after awhile. They have that flare the looks good on you and the overall quality is very superb – wools, silks, etc -
Eddie Bauer – if you can find one that is. Believe it or not, they have some nice dress shirts and I adore their jeans (onsale of course).
Macy’s INC brand – depends on what you are looking for, but I like this line that they carry. I’ve had success with some pants and ribbed turtlenecks. They have some pretty cool funky pieces too if you are feeling bold…
Happy shopping! Remember – never pay full price!
Ok, I’m going to give you the advice my mom gave me… and it has really made a world of a difference. First, get yourself a better fitting bra. Lift the girls up! A better fitting bra will help your shirts fit better. Cacique (with Lane Bryant) has the best bras and they’re pretty cheap! If you’re a itty-bitty-tittie girl… sorry, can’t help ya as to where you can find some good bras. I think Cacique starts at 36C. As for clothes, if you buy classic pieces, you will have an interchangeable wardrobe that will look good forever. Go for FIT and timelessness over trends. You will thank yourself when you look in the mirror and at pictures later! Accessories are where you get to have fun- cute bags and shoes, funky earrings, etc. Things don’t have to “match”.
Shirts: Keep your necklines in a V shape. You can do this with a button-up shirt by unbuttoning the first few buttons. This gives the illusion of a longer neck, elongating your entire body. If you want more coverage, try a cami. White House Black Market has super cute ones! Look for shirts that naturally cinch in your waist, either with the pattern or fabric. Turtle necks and crew necks are hard to pull off unless you are going to wear something over them, like a jacket, to give you shape. You can also use a long bulky necklace to create a V shape.
Pants: Fit at the hip and skim the thigh- not tight! (Remember what your aunt said, it’s just a number!) If your pants fit, you will look like you’re wearing a smaller size anyway.
Skirts- just below the knee or just above. Any other way and you look out of proportion. I like the suggestion of black tights if you’re worried about showing too much skin! Outfits always look more “pulled together” if you wear three pieces (shirt, bottom, belt or shirt, bottom, jacket). We HAD to wear three pieces when I worked at Express.
As for your outfits- I totally agree that the green top looks like it is pulling at the center. I think it may look better totally unbuttoned. Also, it could be the bra issue. Tuck in the white shirt. Not a fan of the headband, it makes you look too young. This would be the outfit for the pearls! The skirt needs to be hemmed just a tad. Great shoes.
#2. Like everyone says, longer necklace. A lacy cami peaking out from above and below would be cute, maybe in a rich brown or even a jewel tone.
#3. To be brutally honest, I am not digging the orange sweater. At all. It is giving you way more bulk than you have. There is no shape to it and all of the extra fabric at the neckline is not doing you any favors. Remember the V shape. IF you HAVE to have it, I suggest pairing it with a pencil skirt. If you’re going to do bulky on top, you have to slim it down on bottom. Bulk + Bulk = not pretty. The jeans fit perfectly, but that sweater is throwing your whole outfit off.
#4. I think this outfit is almost there. The color is pretty but I think the dress could benefit from a tailor. I think it’s a little big on you. I actually like the tights, but maybe not for the office. Solid black ones would give off more of the “professional” vibe. LOVE the boots! They fit like a dream and make your legs look fab! Where did you get them!?
Where to shop: Gap, Buckle, J. Crew, Banana Republic, Express, Limited, Macy’s, Dillards, Belk, TJMaxx, Steinmart, Wal-Mart, Target and Cacique for bras! Anthropologie has cute accessories, but they’re a bit pricey.
I don’t consider myself a fashionista, but I tend to receive compliments on my outfits. I’ve found that the secret is to choose one store and stick with it. For me, that store is Ann Taylor Loft. I sometimes add pieces from other stores, but when I shop at ATL, I know that the brown in the sweater I’m buying today will match the brown pants I bought two years ago. It keeps me looking put together with minimal effort.
Jewelry is another thing. I can’t wear just buy any old necklace at ATL or anywhere else due to metal allergies, so I tend to search for interesting pieces when I’m on vacation and even scour through the maze that is Etsy for things. Buying jewelry this way means that it’s unlikely that the next person I run into will be wearing the same thing.
Good luck!
I am fashion impaired. My “style” is usually jeans, and a t-shirt. If I’m at a lower, healthier weight I will sometimes throw on a cute skirt and top combo… I am definitely NO fashionista.
However, with the blue/purpleish dress thing I think you need some sort of belt to cinch the waist in. As it it, it’s making you look a little shapeless. I think a belt would help accentuate your waist. But I have a really big problem “visualizing” how things will look, so it may look awful when you actually put ON the belt. I also think the first outfit ( turquoise sweater with white shirt underneath) would look better with a slightly shorter skirt.
So, to sum up, I know nothing about fashion and you probably shouldn’t take my advice. I’m wearing jeans and a t-shirt with beat-up tennis shoes right now as I type and that’s about as fancy as I’ll get all week, probably.
1. Cute cute cute – good combo with skirt/bouse/sweater.
2. Hmm….it is missing something and I can’t quite figure out what. Ditch the necklace you are wearing there. Not flattering…..how about either a scarf or long necklace, the kind that you can double up. However, the shoes…….jazzy. perfect fit for that outfit.
3. LOVE the pop of orange. Very flattering and very trendy. Not sure about the shoes.
4. My favorite for sure. Girl you look awesome in this fabulously trendy ensemble. The boots are perfect and LOVE the fish net tights. Very cute. Good job! The earings…notsomuch, but it could be that your hair was pulled back.
Either way, you look great! I have had 3 kids and I hear you about “the number”. It is sad and depressing and does affect how you feel about yourself. There is no denying that. As hard as I work to get rid of the baby weight (which, in truth, should just be called 8 yr old, 5 yr old and 2 yr old weight
) it apparently loves to call my thighs and jiggly belly home. It finds comfort and warmth there that it apparently can find no where else. It is what it is, it doesn’t change who I am, just somedays makes me a bit more self conscience.
For Honesty the skirt is a little long. A wee bit shorter would be more flattering and maybe cut a little more “pencily”
But the cardigan is a great color and the headband is fab!
Second outfit is def. not as trendy and bright and cute but sometimes you need that kind of outfit depending on the occasion. It doesn’t look bad but it is not as trendy as the others.
The orange sweater is a good winter look and easy for us Mom’s to move around in and still look chic. great choice
The blue is really trendy now and would look good with leggins as well or black tights and a pair of fake ugg boots in black. ( I got mine at Old Navy for 20 bucks) They are really comfy and trendy and FLAT! Whhhoohhooo.
Looking good girl. I give you props!
Fashionista here! Agreed- but I think a fitted long sleeved turtleneck would look good under last dress with wide belt!
You have great things to work with but I would make some changes.
Outfit one: Tuck in the shirt. Leaving it out just screams hey look at my waist! Tucking it in will create a sleekness and it is way more “Audrey”
Outfit two: I like it, I think it can stay as is or you could just change out the jewelry or add a scarf for color.
Outfit three: I love the orange, I think the color looks nice. For work I would put a brown shirt on underneath and pair it with brown pants and the shoes from outfit two.
Outfit four: I personally like the long tunic, I don’t like the patterned tights though, I think they break up the line of the leg too much and I would go with a solid black tight or legging. This would add a nice slimming effect. I think the earrings are good, or you could do a bold necklace, not both though.
I get a lot of accessories from Etsy, they have really unique options at great prices.
Always remember though, if you feel good, you will look good.
I would try a belt with the purple tunic..you need something to bring it in a little and a high waisted belt always helps making the torso look lean…..I think that would look very chic. As far as the orange sweater. I would pair it with some great brown work paints that have some texture to it. Maybe you have a wool pair that the base is dark brown and it has some pattern to it.
Yay!!! New clothes!!!!! You want my opinion????
1. I like it. In theory. If you come into the office wearing that skirt, I will be forced to unleash my sewing skills on you and YOU DON’T WANT THAT (mainly b/c they suck. I can sew buttons. period.) The hemline on that baby needs to come up. It’s hitting you at the widest part of your lower leg, which just makes you look wide, which you are not.
2. I like it except for the necklace and thoroughly agree with everyone who said you need a long one. Nothing wrong with dressing in all neutrals (…says the Queen of Black), b/c you can add color with your jewelry.
3. shirt under sweater=dislike. I agree with whoever said that chunky knits need sleeves. I like you in orange (and am jealous b/c you wear it so well), but there’s just something funny about the shape of that sweater. Not a fan of the pointy toes with those jeans, they are more casual looking.
4. Like. It totally looks like something I would wear. I think that you could go down a size, which may make you feel weird, but that thing will stretch, so I bet you could totally do it. I like the patterned tights. You could switch to plain black ones every now and then to switch it up. and obvs I am a big fan of huge earrings.
…and please don’t start dressing too old. we have to inject a little life in this place. There’s a difference between childish dressing and “I’m still in touch with reality” dressing.
I love your blog, and even though I almost never ever post, I think it’s great.
Here are my two cents, but feel free to completely ignore since I am a graduate student and sometimes it’s a miracle if I “work” at home in anything fancier than fleece pants.
Outfits:
1) I LOVE your cardigan! Please tell me where you found such a beautiful shade of green! If you want to look a little older, I would nix the flower on the headband and add a nice necklace. I only say that about the flower, because you mentioned you look young, and I just keep thinking of all the undergrads I teach, who would wear something like that. If it’s cold and you want to keep your legs warmer, you could wear sheer black stockings with the skirt and heels for work, but I suggest this because I’m pretty partial to covering my legs unless it’s really hot outside. I also read on some blog written by some twenty-something fashionista that only nerds and old ladies wear things like black tights, so maybe that’s why I think black is okay.
2) That sweater is so awesome. I agree with some of the other posts that a longer necklace would work better. A scarf, also suggested by others, would be a great way to give it just a little color.
3) I think that orange top is great. A different long-sleeved shirt underneath like a cream or a brown might make a difference in how much you like it. It just looks so warm and cozy.
4) I like the tunic dresses, but there’s just something a little off about it. It looks like it might be maybe one size too big. Does it feel loose when you have it on? I prefer to wear opaque tights or leggings under tunics with a comfy ballerina flat. I do agree that it needs something a little more, maybe a longer necklace or a scarf?
As you can ascertain from my comments, I’m not super fashion savvy. I don’t have to dress up often for my work, but when I teach or present in front of colleagues and professors, I like to look put together. I, too, often look younger than I am and try to stay away from any style that might be construed as too girlish. I’ve found some nice professional pieces like t-shirts and camis for layering and good pants and skirts by shopping at the Ann Taylor, Banana Republic and J. Crew outlet stores. I then pair those basic and more conservative pieces with tops, sweaters and jackets from places like Anthropologie, which has beautiful things but even on sale is pricey for my grad school budget.
I think you look lovely, and I hope the comments from your loyal readers will help!
I think if you had grey boots with the purple-blue tunic, it would look better, or if you could wear a belt around it. Remember that long necklaces are slimming, b/c they create long lines. So if you have a chunky silver neckace, that could work. I like the orange sweater combo, just with out those shoes, maybe round toe flats? I agree that the cream cardi is missing something, maybe a maroon tank under? A long necklace?
I’d either try a white shirt instead of black under the orange (halloween and all) or nix it completely. The sleeves make that hard to work with, temperature wise, though it is cute.
. I got knocked up at the beginning of this year while still in college (on purpose, as we’re going abroad in 2010, wanted to have the baby here) and so the only things i had to wear for the first 5.5 months were sorority shirts. Talk about feeling awkward, yo. Might as well had a high school marching band shirt on. Then i switched to summer hand me down maternity stuff.. but they’re alll too thin.. and all i have in my closet are sorority shirts (not that my boobs would even let me wear it anymore. But i can’t bring myself to buy anything because ZOMG I HAVENT LOST ANY BABY WEIGHT AT ALL SINCE THE HOSPITAL…
anyway, i digress.Cute clothes, just experiment with necklaces and stuff.
You look great! (we have similar body types
I am actually an (aspiring, a.k.a wanna be) fashion designer and have always pondered the appauling non-functionality of a short-sleeved sweater? I mean huh? return it – bad design. Love your other looks! Leopard print pointy toes totally pull the outfit together!
Loving this post. Love the black skirt outfit… wouldn’t change a thing. As for the beige sweater outfit, very cute! I’d prob add a long gold necklace to add more umph to the outfit, but not needed.
I like the orange sweater outfit, but with the black shirt, makes it fee like Halloween (just my thoughts). I’m sure it would also look very nice paired with a pair of brown pants (more fitted than the one in the beige shirt outfit).
And the dress isn’t doing it for me. Sorry. I got one recently too, and didn’t fit right. I like it on others, but not sure what yours is missing. Maybe a nice belt to accentuate the waist?
For the blue tunic I would put a chunky necklace and a belt to give you more shape. I love, love, love the orange top with jeans. To keep from looking halloweeny I would probably pair it with khaki pants.
I think they all look great on you! The baby weight will come off it will just take time…trust me..my son is 13 and well…it took some time :O)
oh, I think some big chunkie earrings would also help set off each outfit too. They have some great ones at Cato & New York & Company that are always great!
You may want to try pairing the orange seater with a cream tunic top instead of black.
You look beautiful. I love what your aunt told you and I’ll take it to heart too. Don’t you love that we have to remind ourselves of that over and over and over. ..
I also love your lepoard shoes. I have snow lepoard ones just like that that I wore with my wedding dress this fall.
And I liked all 4 looks. The black skirt would look a little better if you had it take up to the back of your knees. You can always were nylons with them if you don’t like your knees. Black ones are great in the winter and look professional and pretty sexy. I like the cream sweater, bangle braclets or a long necklace would spice it up. The orange outfit is great as is. And you can mix it up by wearing different tees under it. And I like the blue dress. Looks good and comfy. For mommy days when you want to look nice but need comfort.
You are doing great.
And I love Harrison. He is an angel!
I love the orange outfit!!!! I would try a long necklace with the purple tunic. That look is so cute and super comfy…a nice bonus!
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love #1 but I would tuck in that shirt and wear a cute belt to cinch your waist.
#2 also a keeper for work but maybe you could make it POP with a color underneath the cardi, a bright color!
#3 so cute
#4 looks great on you too, def. rock it!! It needs a necklace or some earrings!
You look hot Mama!
My two cents…
I’m always leary of wearing black and orange; too Halloween for me, but I do love the orange sweater. Also, I would put a belt on the purple tunic. Like another reader said, I would buy and try on several belts of varying widths.
I MUST know where you got the cute leopard print shoes in outfit #2!!
I really like the cardigans. I think maybe a dainty necklace with the dress *which I LOVE” it looks awesome on you. I am not a fan of the skirt, but I understand exactly what you mean because as a teacher I need to have them at about that length or longer and usually I just don’t because it makes me look awkward. But I totally understand your problems with dressing and not looking like an old lady and not looking like a college kid… My work wardrobe needs a massive overhaul.. It is lacking and I end up looking more old lady and frumpy than hip 25 year old. But I am so not hip anyway.
I like the orange sweater, I’d go with something underneath. Perhaps brown or black pants?
Definitely a belt with the blue dress. I loe the dark legs- boota aer good with it, and the textured or a solid black would go too.
I’d get a couple longer necklaces to go wih anything but the orange sweater- I have no comment on cowlnecks, since I can’t wear one well.
I started the ‘after’ wardrobe before Wonder Boy came, and even though I’m not going to work, I try to dress fashionably when I do errands, etc. with him. Looking good makes ou feel better.
I totally recommend New York and Company if you don’t already shop there for work clothes. I have a pair of the York pull on pants- elastic waist work pants! They can look professional.
Good luck!
Lots of good suggestions here, but given some of your posts from last week I’m wondering if a work wardrobe is really in your future or if you are making plans for a work from home blogging career…you’ve definitely been making shifts in your posting style to indicate trying to monetize this ….
Green cardigan = LOVE! I’m not in love with the skirt though. Love the bow in your hair.
Love the cashmere sweater outfit. Maybe add a scarf in place of the necklace some days to mix it up.
Orange sweater is cute but the black underneath just doesn’t look right to me. I think it would look cute with a big fat brown belt at the waist and chunky bracelets sans long sleeved shirt.
Purple outfit is my least fav. A skinny belt at the empire maybe? I’m thinking silver. I think a big necklace and bracelet would look good with it. Or a scarf, big earrings (as pictured), and bracelets.
The hair also helps. Do you usually wear it up like that? Sometimes just little changes to the way you wear your hair can make a big difference. Just play around and see what you’re comfortable with.
I thought they were all adorable and could be made even better with the addition of a belt here and there…and instantly fabulous with your hair done!
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I think you could totally rock this look.
What’s wrong with hair ribbons?? ) :
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This is a more flattering dress option. Tapered at the waist, classic navy accented with silver underneath as an option (the blouse is probably too bulky but a thin 3/4 sleeve in grey would totally work) The necklace they pair it will is lovely too.
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This is how to do monochrome as a column for maximum elongation with a pop of colour or contrast to keep it youthful and fun.
Ribbons on women over the age of 21 are dicey at best.
From the pictures we’ve seen here – there is nothing professional about them whatsoever.
Skinny belt at the empire? Are you trying to help or make it worse? That would totally leave her peared out in the I just had a baby here regions.
Empire would only work if the bottom was Aline.
I’m a pear. I know of what I speak.
Dainty necklaces will only make the proportions worse.
Pear Shapes need to draw the eyes up and the best way to do that is with a plunging neckline (you can wear a tank or a cami for modesty at work) and then top that off with a dramatic necklace. Then below the chest, keep it monochrome. Skirts should be just at the knee not below.
You could wear the ankle strap pumps just pair it with a black tight or hose so that your eye doesn’t go immediately to the contrast of the light and dark chopping your leg off and making your legs look shorter than they are.
the cardigns and pointy toed heels look fantastic on you.
I’m a fan of the tunics and leggings with boots- maybe find a tunic with a little more shape around the rib cage area- look for an empire waist. It hides any pregnancy weight!
Green/skirt – adorable! my fave! love, love, love!
White/black/leopard print – boring. Needs some color.
Orange/jeans – Needs a belt maybe? Its a great start, but looks unfinished.
Purple tunic – LOVE. You look amazing. It would also look great w/the black headband.
I don’t know that I’m necessarily the MOST fashion-savvy individual in the post-baby world, but at 9 mo. PP, and having been back to work for four months now, I’m getting into the swing of dressing up every day.
First of all, you and I have the same body shape, only I do not have the luxury of your height. Any time you wear only a cardigan and button it all the way up, it’s going to frump you up.
In the first pic, you’re doing okay with the cardigan. Consider a more traditional button-up, or a tuxedo-style button up (it’ll have ruffles on the front but still have a collar). If you wear that headband, do NOT put any other jewelry on with the outfit. Don’t. Just say NO. If you ditch the headband, rock some big earrings. You could also throw on textured tights with that outfit and it might help you feel less uncomfortable with the length of the skirt.
Outfit #2: Same rule applies to this cardigan. Get a pretty cami–Old Navy has some great ones with lace at the top for $5– and unbutton the top couple of buttons. Then, unbutton the last button, too. Think about men in sports coats–they NEVER button the last button. It affects the hang/swing of the coat. The same goes for the cardigan. Unbutton the buttons. If you’re worried about showing too much cleavage, just find the right kind of cardigan to go underneath. And I agree with previous commenters who say a great accessory with that would be a long necklace that hits just below the boobs (actually, below the nipple area is best, IMO).
The third outfit, while I could never rock it, could be done with a pair of jeans tucked into some boots. Like the boots in the fourth picture. Do NOT put a belt over a chunky sweater. It’ll only look awkward. And I think a long-sleeved shirt underneath it isn’t a bad idea. I think it’s more faux-pas to wear short sleeves in winter than it is to put a long-sleeved shirt underneath it. However, I don’t think this outfit is work appropriate unless you have casual Fridays.
The fourth outfit. Get a belt! One of the hip, stylish belts that are all the rage right now. Go for something in black. Patent leather, maybe?? Or, you could maybe throw a blazer over it (a chic, cropped blazer) but I agree with the previous commenter who said you’re not going to get a lot of timelessness out of a dress that color. A cardigan, maybe. A camisole, definitely. Because those two items will give you a pop of color. You’ll only be able to wear that dress every few weeks.
The fit of the first cardigan, although a great color, screams “not put together”. Is that the “Jackie” (cotton) cardi from J.Crew? I own several and always get sucked in- they look great before you wash them but then afterward they are impossible to button without bunching. I vote stick with cashmere or cardigans on anyone with anything larger than an A cup. The cotton just does not work wonders for the curves! As for the headband, I love it, but NOT with that outfit. I vote for the side parted low ponytail with this look. Sleek and professional.
With the orange sweater combo, I agree, that orange sweater is not good. That picture brings that old Coco Chanel saying to mind “Always take away, never add”. If you remove that sweater, you have a lovely outfit. Long-sleeved black shirt, jeans, pointy shoes, and classic earrings- perfect outfit!
I too, was not raised in any sort of a fashion conscious environment and it’s a constant struggle for me to be fashionable (especially now that I have a replica of Kate Gosseleins pre-tummy tuck belly). Two books I highly reccommend are “The Lucky Shopping Manual” (by Lucky Magazine) and “The One Hundred” (by Nina Garcia). They are great to own and use as a reference. Also- Whatiwore2day.blogspot.com. She’s a pretty eclectic weekend dresser but has a desk job- so you get to see how she can use some weekend stuff for work wear. Maybe not 100% your (or my!) style, but I think she’s a great inspiration for finding your own look.
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Loyal blog-stalker here posting for the 1st time!! I am due in February, so I’m not at the post-pregnancy stage of dressing yet, but I am in the midst of pregnancy dressing (can’t WAIT to get rid of these maternity clothes!!).
Anyway, here’s my thoughts on the outfits:
1) Get the skirt hemmed to just below your knee. Add some tights or sheer hose if you don’t like your knees. The length is not quite right for you at this point. Otherwise, a good outift. If you have other colored cardigans you can wear this look with them to create different outfits with the same basic concept. Just change up the accessories and shoes, and you’re set.
2) Good outfit, ditch the choker-style necklace and add a longer necklace with some color or that’s black/black & white. Or, wear no necklace and add a thin black belt to your natural waistline. Then add some chandelier earrings. Again, this is another good one that you can wear different colored cardigans with to create “different” outfits.
3) Needs a darker jean, no black shirt underneath (try white, cream, or brown), and different shoes (some cute flats? a flat boot?). Could also try this over some leggings with flats.
4) I like this dress. Maybe add a chunk belt or long necklace. Also, I would wear your hair down and do a smaller earring if you wear a belt/long necklace with it.
Good luck! I think you should post some After pictures once you take people’s comments into consideration so we can all see how you did! Thanks for the daily dose of laughter and wit!!
I feel your pain oh do I feel it. If you are banned to yoga pants lately embrace the leggin trend go buy a bunch of short dresses and viola you have comfortable clothes that look stylish and work appropriate with the right accessories. The last tunic would look great with a pashmina around your neck like a scarf, its a little longer and little bigger so its a great way to hide some fluff.
Love the green sweater outfit with skirt and headband.
Cream sweater outfit needs a cute pin or something like that on the sweater or a different necklace.
Like the orange sweater/jeans outfit but i feel that the longsleeve undershirt needs to be another color. Not a fan of the dark sleeves color combo.
Purple tunic needs a belt to define your curves. Or a long necklace that’s pretty trendy these days.
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You have a good start to all your looks, but I would go to LOFT, it’s impossible not to walk out there looking like a fashionista. And even though their full-priced items can be a little pricey, they have awesome sales and if you sign up for their emails, you’ll get a ton of coupons. You could even choose the salesperson that you think looks the most put together and ask for her help in choosing some items; chances are she loves fashion if she looks good and wouldn’t mind helping… I used to work in retail and LOVED when people would ask for my help like that.
Here’s my two cents on though…
Look 1: The length wouldn’t bother me as much if it was a long pencil skirt. The strap around the ankle cuts off your length… and seeing that you say your ankles are still swollen, bringing attention to them is probably the last thing you want. Pointy-toe is cute though, it elongates the leg. Tuck the shirt in. It’s too sloppy and preppy looking. And I’d add a big ring and chunky necklace (preferably jewel-toned). The headband kind of bugs me with this look; I just feel like maybe it should be saved for a night out with the hubs and a cocktail dress
Look 2: Love the shoes; like the color of the cardigan, but the sleeves suck. If you love this piece though, maybe try the sleeves pushed up above the elbows (if it looks dumb don’t do it haha, just a suggestion). It would look cute with a dark colored cami underneath and the cardigan either buttoned or unbuttoned. A longer necklace and bracelet would look better. Where your hair down, maybe curled.
Look 3: I’m sorry, but I hate this. I despise light colored jeans and dark colored are more flattering anyway, especially if you have bigger hips or thighs. The black shirt and orange sweater combo is not my favorite. I agree that there needs to be a longer shirt underneath, but I am at a loss as to what color because that orange is hard to work with. The shoes are too dressy looking for that look. Again, hair would look better done.
Look 4: A big black belt worn at your natural waist would look really good. The earrings kind of get lost against your skin tone. I think gold or silver jewelry would look pretty here. You really don’t need to change much here
The first outfit with the cardigan & black skirt… PERFECTION. Don’t change a thing.
The next — I like it. But, I’m wondering if it wouldn’t be better with a pretty cami underneath so you could unbutton the last 2 buttons. As others have suggested, I’d also go for a different necklace. Or, maybe just layer additional over the one you are wearing.
The orange sweater — love it. Looks good to me!
The last in the tunic — I don’t know what it is. I just don’t think it looks like “you.” But what do I know, I’ve never met you
But, if you’re gonna do it, I’d ditch the pattern on the stockings and bling it up with bangles and necklaces. It’s a fine line between chic & Madonna in Desperately Seeking Susan 
Good luck – I think you look FANTASTIC and wish you tons of luck with the crying you’re dealing with. Relief soon — fingers crossed!!
Definitely a waist-cinched wide belt over the orange sweater. Love the blue dress – it need a chunky necklace and smaller earrings. The cardi could use a bright cami underneath, a chunky pearl necklace, or both. Good luck!
My favorite accessory these days is a long colorful printed scarf…i have several in multiple colors that match with pretty much everything. It dresses up a bland basic outfit and can also camouflage my post baby pouch. It would look great with outfit 2–the cardigan/pants look.
Hey Blair – I’m late to the party and it’s probably all been said – but here are the tips of a once upon a time costurme designer.
1) You need to shorten that skirt – even just an inch or two, it is hitting you are the wrong point – put on tights or hose to feel more comfortable abouth the knees. Also unbutton the cardigan at least one more button. And I am going to say this in all my ‘Stacy’ sweetness – have you been resized for a bra? I think you will feel totaly different about your sillhouette.
2) Love this look
3) You could do a chunky belt over the orange sweater (but the sweather may be too bulky for that look to work) with sleek black slacks, keep the pointy toe heel! The shirt is the right idea, but the wrong one – you need something that will cling to your arms – think lycra or something with stretch.
4) You make this work becasue of your height – I love the boots. You need to keep the earings and ad a VERY long necklace, something ecclectic – it needs to hit about your sternum or a little longer.
I just passed through your blog and wanted to add in a few cents. I have been an image consultant before and have assisted as a makeup artist too, so I am not totally clueless on the aesthetics on personal style.
I wouldn’t advise wearing the orange sweater to work or the purple tunic. ) The orange is also not good for your skintone. You seem to have a beautiful fair skintone and the blue tunic does look great on you – as far as the color goes. The orange sweater—in general heavy sweaters or cardigans do add on extra weight or it looks to do so, no matter a person’s size it is not slimming). The top two outfits look fabulous on you, though. You look very lovely and put together, as well as professional. I especially love the top left look. It’s very slimming and pretty. I am also a tall (size 10/12) twenty-something that looks younger than my age and must look professional for my career. You can never go wrong with black, navy, pin-striped, and charcoal dress pants. My favorite places to shop are a lot of times online and the pieces usually fit really well: I shop at Spiegel, Metrostyle, Chadwick’s, and Newport the most. The prices are reasonable too and they have absolutely gorgeous clothing for work. Very stylish but professional at the same time.
I do wear a lot of black, not just because it’s slimming, but more so because it just looks nice and screams professional as well as stylish chic. Black and dark colored suits (well just about ANY suits) – both pants and skirt suits look really nice on us tall chicks. We can pull the look off really well. So I would advise picking up a suit or two and mix and matching different styles of blouses and camis to wear underneath. Also, you can’t go wrong with cotton button up dress shirts that have a bit of stretch, as well as darts for shaping that are tailored more or less empire styling with darts or shaping under the bustline. It looks very flattering especially if you have a nice bustline. For accessories, one of my signature looks is to wear beautiful breast pins/brooches. Just one on the collar of a blazer, dress shirt, or front of a sweater. Also, pretty (but not childish patterned) scarves and they really look professional. You can tie one loosely around your neck to the side or a bit larger one draped towards your shoulder. That would look really nice on you with the white sweater. Or with that sweater you could wear a different necklace, something with a bold splash of color or even what I like to call a ‘statement piece’. A large, bold and lovely necklace or one single really large ring, or a breastpin, something that even if you have neutral colors on or monochromatic colors on – the statement piece adds a splash of color and drama, but is still very professional for the overall look.
The color red would look very pretty on you as you are a blonde with fair skin, so it would stand out. Orange or orange-ish shades, yellow, whites, and some pastels won’t look as nice and will wash you out. Also? Dark bold jewel toned colors would look beautiful with your fair skin and wouldn’t wash you out. For example: emerald, royal purple, and cobalt blue shades. Basically dark, bold jewel tones. Satin and charmeuse fabric would look nice too. Just don’t wear anything too tight or too loose, just fitted, but barely fitted, not overly tight.
Good luck and have fun at work!
I’m in my late 20s and personally likes wearing dresses to work, since I don’t have to spend so much time trying to match a top + skirt/pants. and noone but ladies understand just how MUCH time it takes to match clothes unlike men.. *roll eyes*
so maybe you can try out more dresses? the blue/purple dress is good, but lose the earrings, I think a long necklace will look better, and maybe a thin belt, not a thick one though, it will add to the waistline
and chunky necklace adds attention to your neck…
I like outfit 1 & 2 & 3 ! the bright colors are really flattering on you.
the orange does look chunky as well, though the color is great too
I meant outfit 1 & 2 & 4.. not 3.. oops
I totally agree with this – word for word
I’m not very fashionable, but here are my thoughts:
Outfit 1: I think it’s perfect as is! If you want to add an extra something, you could throw a belt over the sweater around your waist.
Outfit 2: I would toss the necklace and get something big, bright, and bold. Think a long 2 strand with big red beads. It needs some color so it doesn’t wash you out.
Outfit 3: I see people wearing this kind of thing a lot, and I think it’s flattering on you. I’d switch out the jeans for a dark wash trouser jean or even black slacks for work.
Outfit 4: Like it, don’t love it. It’s a great color for you, but I’m not sure about how shapeless it is?
Um, I NEED that orange sweater – where is it from
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So, I’m kind of the same shape and height as you and I’ve leart some tips to maxmise good figure points and hide bad ones:
Outfit 1) If you like the cardigan go for it but wear a scoop neck vest under it and unbutton it to your boobs or below – this will give a v-neck shape (flattering for big boobs) but not show your cleavage. I would go for a 50s style skirt to conceal the thighs, the skirt you have on is looking boxy.
Outfit 2) The pants are not flattering, only gentle boot-cut styles are, these are too tight at the knee and stick out too far at the base. A palazzo pant or a far gentler bootcut would be better, a 50s style skirt probably even better still. Again wear a vest and unbutton the cardi, it will be much more flattering.
Outfit 3) It looks cosy but I think large knits should only be worn by the super skinny I’m afraid… Perhaps belted over a short skirt and knee high boots? Not for work though.
Outfit 4) probably needs the least work, but it is an evening outfit. A long (but light weight, so it doesn’t change the line of the dress) necklace, finishing just at the cleavage to mimic a v-neck. A bracelet or cuff would help too.
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