Let me begin this post with a bold declaration:
If you fit into your pre-pregnancy jeans within a month of giving birth, lack the stretch-mark covered spare tire that parades as motherhood’s mascot, or even lost weight during the pregnancy, this post is not for you. In fact, I’ll go as far to say that right now, I kind of hate you. Even if I don’t know you. Hell, even if you’re my long-lost identical twin sister. YOU CAN BITE ME. I say that with love, admiration, & simultaneously, sincerity of my biting dislike.
Let me also begin with two disclaimers:
1) This post is not a fish for compliments. I appreciate anyone that feels the need to tell me that I look amazing, etc but this is an honest post regarding my own self-image in hopes that others may understand.
2) I KNOW how much I enjoyed cupcakes during my pregnancy. Believe me, I’m the one that ate them & GOOD GOD HOW TASTY THEY WERE. There were many times that I chose a slice of pizza over a Slim Fast shake during those 41 weeks & I have nobody to “blame” for this post but myself. So there, Anonymous. I took care of your impending douche-tastic comment for you. You’re welcome.
Now that we have business settled, I invite all of my muffin-topped mommas to join me around a plate of cupcakes rice cakes to lament our new figures. Because holy shit, is my body different. People have been very sweet the past seven weeks when they say, “Wow, you look awesome!” Because I know there is an implied for just having had a baby that goes unspoken.
I cannot fit into my pre-pregnancy jeans, thanks to the extra 15 lbs of baby-weight I’m still carrying. (yes, 15 lbs is the final count. did I mention that I had to take effing water pills like a 90-year-old man to finally drop the last 5 lbs of fluid?!) Yet my maternity jeans won’t stay up without the belly.
So few weeks ago, I finally caved & bought jeans.
I know exactly how you feel. I was a size 16 pre-pregnancy, though. I've always carried the extra weight around and I've never really been okay with it. A size 12/14? I'd be ecstatic. Now that I'm bulging in my pre-pg jeans, I refuse to go up to the 18. I feel like it's a failure to myself. I, too, and dieting (attempting, trying, failing? who am I kidding…) and working out. You're not alone in this battle, girlfriend.
Also, try A.N.A. jeans from JCPenney. They are not expensive and my 16s have a great fit. That's the only place I've been able to find jeans that look good on my big bum.
Amen, Blair! I'm just now 6 weeks postpartum, and woofrickinhoo I have lost over 20 pounds– I still have 20 to go to get down to prepregnancy weight, and then I have more to lose if I want to be back to the pretty self I want to be. McFatty Monday sounds fab!
Thank you so much for the honesty in this post. Of course I think my son is worth the new body, but I too am horrified. I don't want to settle and use the excuse "oh, I'm a mom". I want to feel good about my body again!
I have always loved food but I could get away with enjoying it because of how much I worked out. I now have to face the fact that excercising like I used to isn't an option and I have to be disciplined in my eating habits.
It's kind of a lonely place to be and I would love to have some people (even if online) to go through it with.
I'm not giving up cupcakes completely though, I'll tell you right now
And thus begins a glorious season of weight loss. El Bees, watch out, because Blair is going to be kicking ass and taking names. I've seen you diet and succeed before, and you're going to succeed again. You can hate the process, but then you can wave your middle fingers at the pounds you kiss goodbye when it's all said and done.
(Diet) Kisses!
Blair, you are the best. Funny & honest.
You said it better then I could have ever. I feel the exact same way. My My My little one is 10 weeks old and Im still wearing my maternity jeans cause I have such a hard time buying bigger jeans. I was also a size 12 prior to becoming pregnant and carrying about 20 extra pound due to coming home from Iraq and stuffing my face full of all the deliciousness I has missed out on during my 15 month deployment. While reading this I was REALLY hoping you would have found some good jeans so I could run out and try them. Alas….the search for jeans continues!
I hear you! My baby is 10 months today. I still have 10 lbs to lose. I, however, gained 50 (yes 50) lbs. I was on bed rest so I tell myself that explains it. I was also 20 heavier than I'd like to be when I got pregnant. That gives me still 30 lbs to loose. I finally broke down and went to a nutritionist. I've lost 25 lbs since mid September and it hasn't been that hard. Yay!
You can do it and it will be so worth it! Don't you see those cute skinny moms and just want to kick their asses. I know I do (and probably could since I weigh double what they do).
Yep. To everything.
And thank you for being my morning comic strip. My husband even reads because your hilarious.
Hey Blair, my LO was born the day after yours, I still have 30 lbs to lose to get to my prepreg wt, and have the same ridiculous wardrobe as you do, but have yet to buy bigger pants! I almost did, but figured the horrid attire I've been parading around in is motivation to keep up with the weight loss. It's sad how things don't look flattering anymore, even if they do fit. I joined WW for breastfeeding mamas, it's going slow but I am losing weight! HTH! GL!
Wanna know something sad? After M was born, I also had a lot of water weight that took about 2 weeks to lose. One morning I stepped on the scale, and to my amazement, I was back to my pre-preg weight! 3 days later I got back on just to check again and I was 15 lbs heavier….thanks an effing bunch, scale from hell.
I know how you feel. It's exactly how I feel as well. I'm not even sure if I KNOW how to lose the weight properly. Lol
I can completely relate. That is how I feel about my body right now. Except, I have not had a baby. I just gained it being lazy with my DH. I will say to help make you feel better, as soon as I started gaining weight I soon realized NY & CO has smaller sized jeans. Those were the first ones I had to "upgrade." Perhaps a motivating and helpful tool would to be run a weekly weight update or something on your blog for other women going through the same thing. It always helps to have a friend.
At my thinnest I was a size 8 (I'm 6 feet tall). When I got pregnant I was a smallish size 12 and happy with how I looked. I am now in a size 16, and my son is nearly 6 months old. It is chipping away at my self esteem on a daily basis. I have pretty much decided to give vegetarianism a try after the new year to see if it will encourage me to eat more healthfully and responsibly. I'm also starting an exercise regimen. I keep telling myself "9 months on, 9 months off," but D-Day is rapidly approaching and the weight's not going to come off by itself.
I relate to everything you said & it's so frustrating. I feel like I look ridiculous in pictures now, but I don't want to forego the pics with my son either. I've been working out, but not eating the absolute best… Like ordering pizza & wings the other night. Or having a glass of wine every.single.night. Or eating ice cream & nutella today. Blah.
I blogged about this previously & people told me that it took 9 months to put on the weight (a little more for you because of Harpie Jr) so expect that long for it to come off… But good God I don't want to wait four more months.
If only it were as easy to lose weight as it is to gain it. Ugh.
AMEN! I avoid mirrors and have gone shopping many times in the last few weeks for my "hold over" clothes and end up either really pissed off or in tears. My poor sweet husband has a basket case and a 5 month old on his hands. Never dieted a day in my life and I just started AND bought a jogging stroller. Now if I just had someone to yell at me to go use the over priced stroller and step away from the cupcakes.
That is SO ME about 9 months ago. I look back on all my pictures w/ Savannah when she was 2 months old and think … uuugggghhhhhh I was huge! I HATE having those to look back on. But then I look at them now and think, Dang – I worked hard and I actually enjoy pictures of Savannah and I now!
Love you friend!
I KNOW you can do it … you've done it before and I'll cheer you on and be there w/ you doing it again. You rock at so many things, you'll do awesome at this.
I had almost the same exact experience, except I just went straight to Old Navy, tried on about, oh, 23 pairs of jeans, found ONE that fit and proceeded to have a sobbing meltdown in the middle of the store.
Good times for everyone involved. And, yes, they too were hideous.
Girl…. You know I've been there. We should start a post-pregnancy weight loss support group.
Next time, I swear to GOD that I am going to gain a reasonable amount of weight and I will ignore the ice cream. I'm never doing that kind of weight loss again if I can help it.
All I can tell you is that you can do it. You can lose the weight. I've done it and I know you can too.
OMGosh! How do you write exactly what I'm thinking sometimes?! My DD is 5.5 months old and I am STILL in maternity jeans…sad, but true.
I don't really have many pictures of me with her, because I HATE the way I look. Thanks for helping to motivate me Blair!
I so hear you. I gained almost 50 FREAKING POUNDS with my son. I was overweight to start with and packed on the weight no problem. Towards the end of my pregnancy, I made it a personal goal to break 200lbs. I figured I couldn't cry about it anymore, so why the fuck not? I ate and ate, and relished in every bowl of ice cream and slice of pizza. Sadly, I missed my goal. I weighed myself one last time while in labor and only hit 192. Oh well.
Now I am truly cursing myself for my manic snacking. I've got a buttload of weight to lose and it's overwhelming.
So I hear you. 127%. I'm right there. A few tips.. don't bother dieting over the holidays. Because you will cheat and then feel like crap. Another tip – buy your big girl jeans at Ross. Much cheaper. And try the Excercise on Demand. I like the walking lady, I think her name is Leslie. I tried Jillian and couldn't walk for 3 days. Damn Jillian.
Good luck. Hope it helps you are not alone!
Jenny
P.S. Love your blog. This is my first time commenting, but I've been stalking for awhile!
I totally get these feelings. i had a baby in May and I'm still holding on to 15lbs out of the 50 I gained. I cannot stand it…yet, not really motivated to diet at all. It's too tiring!
I love your honesty.
Go get'em Blair! Keep us posted on your success. May I recommend Jillian Michaels 30-day shred. Im pretty athletic and it is the hardest muthaeffin 25 minutes of training you'll ever do. With a baby and starting work again I figure you'll need a efficient quick workout and that's it. Diet plan included. Good luck babes!
Oh Blair! I am right beside you, only I am still like this at 5 months post-partum. I've been through this before (I have 3 kids), and I KNOW for a fact that it gets better. The weight comes off. BUt even so, I still hate my body right now. I find very little comfort in the fact that in a year I will have shrunk 8 sizes (yes, 8).
:sighs:
Is there such a thing as a chocolate chip cookie diet? If so, I'm on board.
PS. I gained 85 pounds during this pregnancy. My 39 week belly pic would make you cry.
I have followed your blog for a while not and I think you are so funny. I personally think you look great- and like you I hate to diet. I recently lost 18 pounds (and counting) using Spark People. I'm sure you've probably heard of it. HTH.
I love you!!! You just said everything that I am feeling! My son is six weeks old today, and I too am feeling verrrrry "soft". Normally, I'm about a 12, but after getting married had gained about 25 lbs and was in 14/16's. After having a baby, I'm in 18/20's! Eeek! THIS IS NOT MY BODY! How did this happen? But then I look at my little guy and seriously, it's totally worth it. And I did enjoy the McDonalds/brownies/Doritos. A lot.
Blair, I hear you. I was size 12, maybe 10 before I got pregnant. Immediately I needed a 14. Now, I wear a 16 and got cheap jeans from Old Navy that don't fit well. I did find that American Eagle jeans go up to size 18 on their website and they have longs. (I need tall sizes in pants too.) Plus, they often have free shipping and free returns my mail. Hello not even having to leave the house to try jeans!
p.s. My daughter is 7 months… I guess I should really try losing wait, but I like cheetos too much.
Try "not your daughter's jeans". They have a lot of stretch and good length. They are super comfortable, pretty stylish and not horrible on price. They have been my post-baby saving grace
Totally with you. I'm just now starting to lose some of the weight, half-assing the 30 day shred here and there. I just about danced today when I fit into an old pair of jeans (the only ones I fit into). I almost never let anyone take pictures of me with the babe, which is kinda sad actually, but I just hate seeing myself. I really didn't think about all of this post-pregnant body stuff when I was piling on 40 lbs!
Thanks for the post Blair! This is my situation 14 weeks post baby and I am still in a size 18 up from a size 10 pre-pregnancy! It is so frustrating to have such a weird body now. Thanks for being honest.
Try American Eagle. I can't remember what sizes they go up to, but I've found with pre-pregnancy "muffin top" i guess would be the best way to describe it, have worked for me for tall sizes!
Oh and I've never been there, but remember at least you have a sweet little love bug that you want to remember your time with, even if you don't share the pictures with ANYONE other than youreself!!!!!!
I know A LOT of people who have had luck with weight watchers, it's flexible and you feel in control of your food consumption.
Pre pregnancy (oh god currently I'm in the throws of packing it on my b-hind) and before our wedding I SWORE by Pilates. You still need to incorporate cardio (spinning is effing awesome, like a crack high, except I've never tried crack) but Pilates really helps get your body in the mood to firm up.
Windsor has an awesome 20 minute video that I used to do in the morning. Good luck – I think you look amazing!
GAH. At least your jeans fit over your thighs. I was a size 6 or 8 before pregnancy, gained 53 during pregnancy (20 was water weight, OH YES IT WAS AND YOU CANNOT TELL ME OTHERWISE) and have lost all but 10 or so, but the jeans WILL NOT FIT OVER MY THIGHS. So, my ass is in a size 12 and the boy is 10 weeks. Riddle me that.
I tried to run, but the feeling of my ass bouncing up and down like it was SEPARATE FROM MY BODY was so very terrifying I had to stop. I'm doing the 30 Day Shred and liking that and we take 3 mile walks almost daily. At some point, maybe I'll stop eating like 14 cookies a day as well.
I am blaming the 10 pounds still on me on my body keeping weight on for nursing. Yes… that's it
Oh, NY and Co. has GREAT stretch-waisted pants for work that are FABULOUS for when you have to return. I don't go back until January either, but I bought some for the holidays and I may never wear normal work pants again, even if I get back to my normal size.
i believe i own these said old navy jeans that look awful. my daughter is almost 8 months old and i still have 24lbs to lose to be at my pre preg weight. i hate dieting…have had to do it all my life. and it is even harder now with a little one.
Girl I know how you feel! before I started having kids I was a size 7 Now I am a size 16. I wore a 16 before I got preggo with my last baby (who is now 1) and I still cant fit into my prepreggo clothes I have to buy new jeans to be able to fit into a 16 I'm close to my prepreggo weight with from my last pregnancy but I havew a ways to go to get to my prepreggo with even my 2nd child. And I am so with you on the dieting thing! I hate dieting, I've tried diets before but can never stick with them.
You are definatly not alone!
I didn't read the other comments so I am sure what I am saying is pretty repetitive but I must! It drives me CRAZY to see so many braggy announcements of women back in their pre-pg jeans at 3-4-5 weeks post partum. Eat me. Those women are. not. normal. Thanks for writing a post for the other 90% of us!
It took me 9 full months to truly feel normal about my body again after gaining 65 lbs with my first son. I didn't do any crazy dieting just some loose following of WW points and lots of long walks with my guy in his stroller. It WILL come off and you WILL feel normal again!
In the mean time, please continue the search for some transistion clothes. It is a bitch trying to dress a body you are unhappy with but just remember that this is only temporary! Having at least a few things that fit decently will only help your self esteem and your journey back to your old self.
Sevens are my 3 favorite pairs of jeans as well, they fit great, the denim – so soft and comfortable and just feels so good to wear. Mine still sit packed away in my jeans drawer, waiting to be worn. In September my LO and I were on a walk around town and we came across a Fashion Bug – I have never been in one before, and I was in desperate need for jeans that fit – but I was not about to spend a fortune on "big" jeans. I found the most flattering jeans in there – The Brand is LA Blues. 19.99 and they have 3 fits depending on your body type! I actually found a fit that was perfect at my waist (eh- hem- my "muffin top" belly area that used to be a waist) and still fit my hips and butt and legs without having the sag-ass effect! Just wanted you to know!
(I am not a stalker, I have followed your blog for a looooong time now, I have just never posted before)
Good Luck!
I gave birth on Oct. 13th and my husband came home with a Victoria's Secret bag yesterday. I was already squeamish but thought it was cute that he even ventured into that store on his own. Unfortunately it didn't fit, I already knew it wouldn't but gave myself the benefit of the doubt. I looked horrible and had to tell him that we needed to take it back. I give Heidi Klum credit for walking in the fashion show, she is definitely not human.
it took me 1 month of the raw food diet, 4 months of STRICT weight watchers with neighborhood walking, lots of prayer and a 30 pound weight loss stretched out over the course of a year to fit into jeans that are sold at "teenage" stores, aka a size 15. your body just is not the same. it gets better, but give it at least 6 months before you drop any real money on jeans. my body has gotten less terrifying but is still totally different than pre-preg… yours has been through 2 pregs in a short time and extra trauma. don't let anybody tell you it's because you're not BFing either, all that got me was a permanent craving for oatmeal cookies and an underweight baby because my milk production never kept up.
call me if you want advice on WW. or just call me anyways! let's walk around the mall and talk each other out of cinnabon
ps- may i suggest levi's at walmart. $20 a pop and i wore those bad boys EVERY DAY and didn't wear them out.
For the love of sweet jeebus! You're a real sized woman! Praise heaven! I've finally found a blog with a writer who's biting sarcasm and whit amazes me daily… and to boot- you're real! I'm a long time lurker and have admired your honesty through this experience.
I'm a tight 14/too big 16 right now, and fear the day those two pink lines show. I fear those two pink lines will mean new endeavors into pant-sizes unknown and bra sizes that compare to Madona's cone bra a la 1990.
Good luck!
I totally know how you feel. However, a few weeks ago my jeans were about 6 inches from zipping. Then yesterday, they fit! Working out and eating right is key, but time heals as well.
Also, don't do crunches! I have been working with a post natal Pilates instructor and ANY crunches actually make your belly mushier! After being pregnant the muscles are separated in the abdomen and they need time to grown back together, crunches actually make it worse!
Try Levi from Walmart, from a size 8 to a 14 they are the only thing that fits right now. GOOD LUCK!!
I feel the exact same way. My belly is huge and still very much a belly. And once it leaves I'll have twin skin. And I'm pretty sure I weigh more than my husband. And I'm ITA about pictures. Sigh.
I totally feel you. I've been back to my pre-pregnancy weight for almost a year now (DS is 18 months old), and I still cannot fit into my pre-pregnancy jeans. My body has totally changed and my fat deposit stores have apparently shifted. So, my choices are to swim around in jeans that are slightly too big, or squeeze myself into pre-preg jeans and feel fat. There are no sizes in between, so I'm pretty much stuck (sometimes literally at the end of the day when I can't get the smaller jeans off).
Geez, I could write a book about this (and have often thought about it). I gained 54 pounds with my first and 42 pounds with my second (after that, I stayed in the "recommended" range, but I think it's because they were girls). It's important to remember that your body just did an absolutely AMAZING thing. It needs time to recover.
That being said, I think it's wonderful that you want to be healthy. For me, that's always been the motivator. I want my kids to learn healthy habits from us and I also don't want to be an embarrassment to them (at least not because of my size). It's hard to do and you WILL slip-up sometimes (no one is perfect). I have a TON of recommendations but for now I'll just say this: It's not easy to do and don't try to make a ridiculous goal. You did "just have a baby" and if you think you need to work-out for an hour+ every day you'll be sunk before you even start. Start small. Do what you can when you can and you WILL get there. Every little bit helps (ie push-ups while giving Harrison a smooch on every down would be my all-time favorite sneaky muscle builder). There are TONS of work-outs for new moms. The important thing is to pick something and then actually DO IT. All of those info-mercial products work IF YOU USE THEM. Right now I'm big on the resistance bands because they're convenient and you can get very fast results. Oh, screw it. If you want to know how I did it (meaning "got back to my pre-pregnancy size after 4 kids in 6 years") e-mail me. longdazeshortyears at zoominternet dot net. If not, that's OK. I wish you the best of luck!
I love this honesty, and I'm SO afraid of how I will feel about my body after Weston gets here! I am scared out of my mind. I've been not really eating well, and I haven't gained too much yet, but I'm gaining weight, and I'm enjoying eating what I want to, but I'm not looking forward to what I might look like when it's all over! WW here I come!!
Thank you,
very interesting article
I was in my maternity clothes for the entire three months leave. I was forced to go shopping at 3 weeks PP because I got a job interview and had to go squeeze my butt into a suit! I must admit I was pretty embarrassed when the sales girl heard crying from inside my dressing room. It was a rough go but please remember that winter and the holiday season in general is a bulky time for most. Some of my leftover weight didn't drop off until the spring when I started to take more walks with the dog and baby. If you are interested in starting something in the New Year I would look into the 30-day Shred. It seriously kicks your ass.
I am 5'11" and had some health issues that caused me to gain weight. I found that the Torrid jeans come in 34" and 36" inseams and seem to fit pretty well for girls that are long and curvy not just fat. I would give those a try.
As far as loosing the weight, you will! dont worry, its just going to take some time. but dont loose hope
Lady, it took you 9 (+) months to put the weight on… don't expect it to fall off in a few weeks. And screw anyone else who thinks that!
Also, banish the word diet from your vocabulary. Diet has such a bad connotation. You don't need to diet, you just have to eat healthy portions, have veggies take up more of your plate then the carbs do, and make the conscious decision to pass on cupcakes for a little while. That, plus exercise, and your body will come along.
Good luck!
As you can obv. tell you are not alone. I am actually a couple pounds below my pre pregnancy weight, but I have evidently lost about 15-20 lbs of muscle during pregnancy and in their place, sits Alice. My front butt. She's gross – I hate her and her fat friends on my hips, but she is still here 4.5 months after my C section.
Good thing I asked for a jogging stroller for Christmas…
I sit here reading this wearing a pair of size 16 (mid rise! aka "mom") jeans from Old Navy and I'm pretty sure we"re in the same EXACT place. AND I just bought a size 20 dress from Lane Bryant for a wedding this weekend (damn BFing boobs) and I thought DH was going to pass out with happiness as that was the *13th* time I had tried on dresses that day.
I've been using SparkPeople for the past week just to track my calroies and GOOD GOD I've been eating an absolute shit-ton of food! I'm with you and cheering for ya!
Hey Blair.. left you an award over on my site..
my daughter is 19 months…and my body still sucks. i swear to god, it'll never be "normal" anymore!
Blair, I am so sorry you're having a rough time, but I am sure that with the determination you seem to have, you will get back to where you want to be. Try the 30 Day Shred for an exercise program you can easily do at home while Harrison naps. It's really short and will kick your ass HARD. It's a great way to kick things off. Good luck!
You better not be gauging yourself on the Target sizing system. You know those numbers just aren't right.
…you know that I am a firm believer in the 30 Day Shred too, like pp said. Ass kicking on the go, you know, for us busy folk.
I couldn't agree more. We had our family pictures done last night and I hate every one that has me in it! Except my baby is 6 months old, not 2. I am determined to starting working out ASAP!
Yeah, you are me, like 8 months ago. And I am still terribly embarrassed about the way that I look. Because my friends are all skinny bitches.
Maybe I will get some new friends…?
At any rate, I recommend NY&Company City Stretch – Vanity Sizing at its greatest! And, Ann Taylor LOFT has a nice cut for the belly issue, and they come in size long.
Hey Blair,
Kitty
I have an answer for you!!!
Buy the Belly bandit!!! It will help shrink your belly. I have a baby about 1 week older than Harrison- Virginia if you remember. And this belly bandit helped shrink my belly so much- it will really help you there!
Let me know if you have ?s.
i think you and i might be the same person in a parallel universe…i had my baby on Oct. 16 and have the exact same body you do (judging from that last photo anyway). i also went to target the other day and left with jogging pants and a bunch of tshirts, one of which was a maternity shirt.
god bless you for having the strength to even try jeans on at this point…i haven't even dared just yet.
I TOTALLY can relate!! Except the bad thing, my daughter will be 6 months (yes, count them, S-I-X months) in 2 days. I know that the holidays are just so crazy stressful and with picking up overtime I have ZERO time to dedicate to working out, but after Christmas has settled, I plan on kicking my own arse. Working out is it for me, because I dont have the most healthy diet, so it seems to counter-act the cookie and milk I have at work every day at 4pm
I bought on craigs list this workout program called Chalean Extreme, I have her turbo jam DVD's which are awesome if home workouts is your type of thing! Keep us posted…maybe you can have a 2010 kick the baby weight hosted on your blog and find some super cool stuff to give away
I've been contemplating writing this post for a while — ha!
I feel the same way. I borrowed some jeans from my Momma, and they are size 18 womens… AND IT MAKES ME CRY TO WEAR THEM. Not just because they're 18s… but because they're 18's that hurt my belly they're so tight.
6 weeks post-partum… I have 0 clothes and 0 money to buy new jeans with. I'm living in jeans and 1 pair of corduroys. Ugh.
I was at my highest weight EVER when I got pregnant with Keevia… and now I'm 10-12 pounds above that. I have never felt so fat and ugly in my entire life.
And I to, hate pictures of my child and myself because of how huge I look.
Have you tried Not Your Daughter's Jeans? They're cut to smooth out and support your tummy and butt, so they come up a bit higher (but not ridiculously high) and are made of the most perfect, comfy stretch-denim. They're awesome, and come in long lengths. A little on the pricey side (not as expensive as Sevens though) but worth it.
You deserve to look cute and feel good about yourself even if you have more weight you want to lose!
You've been reading my mind again haven't you? I'm having this issue too. I probably shouldn't tell you that my LO is about to celebrate his 1st birthday. PB and chocolate are NOT my friends, no matter how yummy they may seem. I bit the bullet and went to Walmart, yes Walmart and bought a $20 pair of Lee's (I fear my Seven's may never speak to me again) They are modified mom jeans but at least I don't look like I got stuck in a tire swing and just put a shirt over it……
For serious, yo
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This is what happened to me… but with marriage. I wore a size 8 pre-marriage. Now I’m a size 12… and that’s AFTER losing 15 lbs over the last few months.
I can sympathize about the cupcakes… loooooove cupcakes.
I can totally sympathize. After having my twins, I felt like my body would never be the same — and my cute Lucky and 7 jeans sat in a bottom drawer, totally rejected! I had good luck with Levi jeans from Kohls — super cheap (like $20!), and they have some spandex in them, so they are stretchy and very comfortable. Also, they are a bit more of a low-rise, so they sit below the muffin-top pooch … Good luck, keep your chin up!
I am so with you girl, this is exactly what I am going through! I have a 2yo and a 5mo and I haven't felt good in forever. I think the hardest part for me too is that I hate to have my picture taken! I went out and bought jeans also, biggest I'd ever bought ugh! Slowly but surely it's coming off, it will with you too, nothing really happened for me the first couple of months..Thanks for this post I def. can relate!!!
I can say ditto to this entire post! And BTW, I am also very tall and about your size and found good,cheap, LONG fat jeans at JCPenney. I think the brand is Foster? Not 7 jeans by any means, but for a cheap pair of in betweeners, they get the job done.
My son is 3 and I am still not down to my pre-pregnancy weight! Going back to work, trying to keep up a household and a happy husband leaves little time to working out or eating anything other than what is easiest and right in front of you. I am so glad that you are as open and honest as you are… makes other of us out here feel "normal". You need to start an online "Biggest Looser"!! I'm growing tired of my son pushing on my jiggly belly… even though it is his fault, right?
Thanks so much for this post! It helps to know I am not alone. I'm 5 weeks PP and get super frustrated when I read about women who are already at their pre-pregnancy size. Well, when I got pregnant, I weighed the most I have ever and not only do I want to lose the pregnancy weight, but then an extra 20-30 lbs. My MIL is spending Christmas with us this year and I know she is going to insist on family pictures. I'm just going to be super upfront with her and say NO PICTURES OF ME!
I've been reading your blog since I started on the bump and it has been so helpful for your upfront comments about the pregnancy journey and now the baby journey.
guess you should have breastfed.
My daughter turned 6 months today, and I am still in my maternity pants. I can't get this weight off. I was a 16 before I got KU. I'm now a 22/24. I hate my body. I hate being in pictures. I don't feel sexy so it's hard for DH to get laid these days. I don't want him to look at me. Yet I don't do anything about it but complain. I suppose it's about time I do something. (I did lose a few pounds when I got on the scale last night to weigh the babe.)