You asked….I obliged.

The first part of the Q&A installment!  I’m still working on the rest, but keep ‘em coming!

1) How did you and Nate meet?
Our world’s collided in January 2002 in a Feminist Rhetoric English class in college when I was 18 & he was 19. Skip ahead 2 years, 2 boyfriends (mine), 3 girlfriends (his), and you have us both (miraculously) single at the same time. April 2004 began our romantic relationship, August 2005 brought a diamond ring into the picture, & we walked down the isle in July of 2006.

2) Does your milkshake bring all of the boys to the yard?
Yes. And damn right, it’s better than yours.

3) What’s the best thing about THIS pregnancy so far? What has been the worst thing about THIS pregnancy so far?
The best thing has been the excitement from family & friends — with Harpie, I think everyone was still in shock that Nate & I have unprotected sex. I think it was hard for our parents to see us as elligible for a child. & several of our friends who weren’t in the baby-making stage of life didn’t get our motivation to procreate (understandable). This time, it feels like everyone is on our side, cheering for a success story & excited to meet HJ. The prayers, thoughts, well-wishes, & excitement have helped make this fun & exciting, when it could have easily felt terrifying.
The worst thing has been the reliving the first trimester. Technically, with the exception of 37 days, I have been in the first tri since September 2008. I have been pregnant for 6 out of the past 7 months with nothing to show for it regurgitated lasagna & a few empty gin bottles.

4) When you first started your blog were you worried about people IRL knowing too much of your business, or is that ever a concern for you now?
I think about this a lot & every so often run posts by Nate to make sure he’s okay with them being on the interwebs.  I am a very open person in real life — I rarely keep things private, so I’m not that skeeved about strangers knowing that my husband is a good lay icon wink You asked....I obliged. Funny thing is, I’ve had people that I’ve known stumble across my blog without realizing it’s me! I don’t mind it when that happens at all, except that I ask that they not run out & put it on Facebook or email the link to my mother. A sorority sister of mine shot me an email saying she found my blog — I had a moment of panic, thinking I had done something wrong with the settings, or someone had linked it on Facebook, etc. But she came across it through another blog & read the entire thing before realizing she knew me! On the other hand, I due use a “pen name” to keep the crazies at bay.

5) Do you have any phobias?
I am humiliated to admit this, but yes, I do have a phobia. Dinosaurs. It is a true story. Sometimes, I envision a T-Rex busting through our backyard & eating us when we’re grilling out. I have friends that threaten to throw me a dino-themed shower should HJ have a penis — I have since retracted their BFF bracelets.

6) Will you work or stay at home when HJ is born?
I will be a working mom. Unfortunately, we need my income to support bills & cutting the cable just doesn’t make up for a loss of my salary. I will have to stay full-time, but I’m hoping to work out a deal with my office where I can cram those hours into 4 days & spend one day home with HJ.

7) Do you spit or swallow?
::dies laughing:: Nate says he’d be shocked if I even understood what this question meant anymore, but he’s a liar. I swallowed in college when I was trying to prove to Nate that I was worth keeping. Because who doesn’t want a wife that swallows? Sadly, I pulled a bait-n-switch on his ass after the marital vows & now I spit.

icon cool You asked....I obliged. Does Roy Williams play a role in your household? Is it difficult to have a marriage between KU and UNC fans?
EXCELLENT question. While Nate swears he feels the same way about Roy Williams that I do about Mack “Benedict” Brown, it has been tough converting him to Carolina blue when he has one hand on an emotional trigger towards Roy. Last year healed old wounds though, when KU won the National Championship sans ol’ Roy & Nate now sports Carolina shorts whenever the Heels get on the court.

9) Are Blair and Nate your actual names?
No! I know, it’s like finding out Santa Clause doesn’t exist, right? It is strictly a pen name like Mark Twain, Dr. Suess, & Cher. It all started with an unhealthy love for Gossip Girl & a need for an anonymous screen name on the Nest, & then spun into a great way to keep this blog open & honest without fearing a mesh with my private life.

10) If you got $500 million by winning the lottery. How would you spend your fortune?
Is it sad that Nate & I have these discussions constantly, even though we never play the lottery?? First, we’d put down a few million for our retirement. A few million for our parents retirements. Buy ourselves a nice (but respectable) house with cash. Give $1 million to each of our siblings. And then we’d each get some play money — I’d like to sponsor a Rondald McDonald Care Mobile & I think Nate would give to a golf charity. & then we’d invest the rest & live off the interest. Seriously, we are boring, boring people. and p.s. I am never creeped out by readers icon wink You asked....I obliged.

11) What is your favorite Southern dish?
Definitely a tie between fried okra & hushpuppies.

12) What’s the most disgusting thing you’ve seen or gone through in this pregnancy?
Okay, so I asked Nate this & we both simulaneously said, “The Mega-back zit.” I was sitting very innocently at work one day, legs crossed at the ankles & everything, & I reached over my shoulder to scratch my back. My hand came in contact with this…TUMOR of a zit on my back. I screeched & spent 10 minutes trying to see it, which is much like trying to lick your own elbow. This thing was truly the size of an olive — at the very, very least. I got home that night & showed Nate & he spent the entire night trying to burn the image out of his mind with Crown Royal. I ended up popping the thing that night — this piece of pusstual steele came out in a solid rod of disgusting, followed by yellow pus. I’m seriously about to puke just thinking about it.

13) Where is the furthest place you have traveled?
This is about to reveal how incredibly lame I am — I’m not much of a traveler, simply because we don’t have the funds unless we wanted to put baby-making on hold for a decade. But I did tour Italy for 10 days after my senior year in high school & it was phenomenal. Landed in Rome, toured Venice, the Vatican, Sienna, Florence, & finally departed in Milan. I’d love to go to Egypt — it’s on our list for places to go when we retire!

14) Since you love chocolate chip cookies, what are your favorite kind to make?
I shall brag for a moment & say that I am a pretty kick-ass baker & typically make things from scratch. However, Nate & I LOVE the Betty Crocker oatmeal chocolate chip cookies that come in the bag. You just add butter & egg, mix it up, & they’re reading in 12 minutes.

15) Do you like cupcakes? span>
Why, indeed! Especially ones with blue frosting. Sarah, how do you feel about cupcakes?

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Round 2.

Apologies if I was a little word-y on the answers, but there were some pretty interesting questions!

16) What is the weirdest thing about being pregnant?
It’s a tie between knowing that my baby is literally a parasite, sucking both my nutrition & my brains, & the fact that I now talk about girly-bits candidly with total strangers. My coworker & I were having a discussion about how she tore to her ass due to forceps & a huge baby & the entire time, I was thinking “I’m not sure I want this mental picture.”

17) How did you get to be so damn witty??
The funny thing is, the majority of my friends will tell you that I am the biggest effing nerd EVER. I’m really not cool & just incredibly cheesey. I think it stems from pulling my own weight against two older brothers for 25 years — you have to be a loud attention whore if you’re ever going to be noticed. I learned that lesson by my 4th day here on Earth.

18) Where did the name Harpie come from?
Ahhh, ye olde tale of Harpie. A long, long time ago in a land far, far away known as BOTB, a lovely princess named “BlairWaldorf” found herself fighting the dragons of Mom’s Corner (another message board, aka “Mom’s Cult”). Blair fought valiantly, slaying these wenchy dragons with her waspish tongue. One of the wee little dragons tried her hand at fire-breathing by calling Blair a “mean old harpie.” Unfortunately, her singe was a bit off and it came off as only pink bubbles of joy, for she had mispelled the word “harpy” (a bitter, old hag) for the word “harpie” (a fiersome bird-like creature). After all the dragons were chased from BOTB, the name of “Harpie” stuck & became a legend.

19) Were you chewing gum in that lil photo? If so, what kind?
Oh, you sly fox icon wink Round 2. I am chewing gum! I believe it was something minty, hence the tourquise color.

20) Do you live in NC?
Tarheel born, Tarheel bred. & when I die, I’m a Tarheel dead.

21) What scares you the most about child birth?
Probably tearing horribly — like 3rd degree or worse. I can’t imagine the pain of that recovery. My family has a history of monstrously-sized babies (I was the smallest at over 9 lbs) & I’m afraid of tearing down to my ass. I am also terrified of forceps or a vacuum being used.

22) Where’s the first place you plan to take HJ (besides home of the hospital)?
The micro-brewery. Start ‘em young.

23) I also second the question about calling the baby’s Harpie and Harpie Jr. Is it just the love of birds? I guess my question shall be, Why Harpie’s?
See above answer icon smile Round 2. And for Harpie Jr…it just made sense! The birds started on my Bump tickers — Harpie as a bluebird, and then the only other bird they had was a robin, which became HJ by default.

24) If your house was on fire, what would you save if you could only grab one thing (not Nate or Tuck – they got out just fine)?
 I used to say “pictures,” but now everything is uploaded to the interwebs. I think I would save my living room drapes. Seriously, I love them & found them clearance at TJ Maxx — there’s no way I could replace them.

25) Why did you decide to do an anonymous blog instead of just being yourself?
Aside from my name, I am VERY much myself on this blog! The blog started off as something fun for me; I linked it on the Nest.com, so I really didn’t want all of my personal information on a message board. I never dreamed how it would “take off” over the past few months, have so many readers, or what a therapy release it would become for me. It has started to become a little less “anonymous” as I’ve put up pictures, etc.

26) What line of work are you in?
Marketing, where I bat my lashes & smile pretty & try to get people to buy things.

27) How will you celebrate HJ’s 11 week 4 day um, lifeday?
I’ve actually thought about this a lot! I am so, so excited for next Thursday. I think I will start the day with a tasty (decaf) latte, & Nate & I will go out to eat that night to celebrate. It will definitely feel like our first real “milestone.”

28) How did you come up with the nickname Harpie and the birdie symbol for it?
see above answers!

29) How does this pregnancy feel? Are you worried all the time? Can you relax and just enjoy it like you did during the relative naivete of the first one?

Surprisingly, I have been very calm with this pregnancy…minus  a few freak-outs.  I’ve found that in freak-outs, blogging about it or shooting off an email to a friend usually provides the dose of reality that is needed to break the cycle of paranoia.  I keep repeating to myself that there is nothing I can do to shake a good pregnancy, & very little I can do to keep one that isn’t going to stick.  This is entirely out of my hands, & the only thing I can do is strive to be the best human incubator in the universe.  Everyday I had with Harpie is entirely precious in my heart, & I strive for the same thing with HJ — I want to be able to tell my child that I’ve loved every second with him/her, & that I didn’t spend the first 40 weeks of their life in fear.  & if I do lose HJ, I don’t want any regret of not feeling that I didn’t treasure this time enough.  It’s a hard thing to balance some days, but I have an amazing support group of friends & family that keep me realistic & sane.

30) What are your favorite foods of all time, aka what would your last meal be?

Medium rare steak.  Mashed potatoes.  Hushpuppies.  Asparagus.  Corn on the cob.  Salad.  & a big fat pint of Killian’s.

31) Who’s your favorite funny lady in the blogosphere (or if you don’t have one, in general?)
I am a big fan of Dooce (when she’s not being political) & Maybe if You Just Relax.


32)  What is the one thing that you look forward to teaching your child?  Why?
While Nate can’t wait to get a golf club into HJ’s hands, I look forward to teaching him/her to pray.  I know, for the amount of f-bombs & liquor references in my blog, that may shock the panties off some.  But let it be known that Blair loves Jesus, & I really look forward to kneeling down by my children’s beds, teaching them to fold their little hands, & showing them how to talk to Jesus like He’s their friend.  I want faith to be a strong part of their lives, & something they are never afraid of or intimidated by, & prayer is usually a great start.
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